Family Counseling

I am blessed to be part of a family where we aren't at each others' throats. However, some families and family members can't seem to get along for whatever reason(s). You may want to consider meeting with a family counselor if you can't settle your differences for free. This blog post is a discussion on bringing families together and even in trying to find a family counselor. I hope this post helps at least someone in this situation. Then again, I hope I am helping others with ALL of my posts on "John's Life Space."

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Family Counseling

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^ from: www.peggybolcoa.com - When you can't settle family matters on your own, you may want to consider consulting with a family counselor.

When you usually see families, you usually see them happy and content. Not all families can get together happily, though. One thing to try to bring families together is to seek professional help from a family counselor. If you are unable to patch up differences in your family for free, then it wouldn't hurt to try to get family counseling to try to bring everyone together. Families are not supposed to fight each other or have significant differences among them. Certainly differences that lead to violence are things that have to be considered and talked about with a family counselor.

Your family should be your absolute best friends. They know you more and love you more than almost any friend you make in your life. Some people even consider family members as their best friends. So when family members can not seem to get along, it is an utter shame. Families who are in crisis are not just limited to sibling rivalries. Often times, certain relatives can't seem to get along, or maybe there's that one (or maybe more than one) family member who always seems to stir the pot and drive others crazy. In these cases, it helps to have someone try to iron out differences among other people.

If you do consider the route of getting professional help from a family counselor, be sure to have the finances to fund having sessions with a family counselor. You can try to look up local listings to find the nearest family counselor in your area. You may also look up online resources like Regain to find family counselors.

Why Families Fail to Get Along?

Any number of reasons can be the cause of why families have such disputes.

Can Family Counseling Help?

Well, it wouldn't hurt. Would you rather get along with your family or keep having disputes with one another? Some things in life you will have to spend money to try to live a better life.


Now on to some final thoughts.

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Family Counseling: Final Thoughts

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If your family can't get along and you feel help is needed to try to bring everyone together happily, then you are best served to consult a family counselor. Families should be like families- not strangers or savages. Not every family is properly equipped and composed of fine chemistry. For families in crisis or could use some help getting together peacefully, a session or more with a family counselor can help improve the bonds of families from imploding more than most disputed families may already be. You can have all the friends you want to make, but the best friends you can make are your family, and losing your family can have you feeling like you have nothing at all.

Resources.

I have been offered this resource to help you in case you need to find a family counselor, and also why you may need to consult with a family counselor if you are having family problems. Take a look:

• Family Counseling on Regain

I may provide more resources if I find any. Or, you may contact me online with relevant and useful resources my readers and visitors can benefit from.





I hope you are able to keep your family together if they are at dispute. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Special Occasions Ruined

There are some days you look forward to and prepare for- a birthday, an anniversary, some party, a special event, etc. Then for some reason, it is ruined. Some occasions are seen as once-in-a-lifetime occasions; and if/when they are ruined, we feel what is supposed to be a time of happiness ends up producing more excuses as to why life is not worth enjoying. The level of importance of certain ruined special occasions lead us to why we either like or dislike certain moments in life. So what do you do when certain events of happiness are ruined? I will try to offer my thoughts in this post here on "John's Life Space."

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Special Occasions Ruined

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Certain enjoyable occasions are meant to be just that- enjoyable. However, various influences cause days of happiness to be ruined for whatever reason. Certain moments are meant to be treasured for a long time to come- and hopefully for all the RIGHT reasons. What happens when such projected times of happiness get ruined?

The Psychology of Special Occasions.

From parties to celebrations to ceremonies, we all have times we want to remember and celebrate. When such moments are ruined, we feel there will never be a second chance to enjoy certain times. Think about maybe an Elementary School student performing and wants to see his/her mother and/or father in attendance enjoying the performance. Imagine someone wanting a certain gift for Christmas but unable to get it. Think of someone's birthday party being ruined because of some kind of violence or an overall horrible experience. If someone is graduating, someone wishes a family member or his/her family will be there to see him/her gain recognition and respect for graduating. When not everything goes well, times feel terrible. If someone is about to get married, a lover hopes that the wedding doesn't get called off, or even if at the wedding party, someone gets dumped or decides not to marry the other person. If a mother is ready to give birth, it would be ruined if the father doesn't show up or if the mother suffers some kind of failed pregnancy. We all wish we can enjoy certain moments without any kind of problems. Moments where we can enjoy ourselves or celebrate something should go without hitches. Life, however, gets in the way.

If certain things are not happening or if certain people don't show their loving support, an occasion feels ruined. We always want everything to go smoothly. An opportunity seems missed when things do not go according to plan, or when the desired outcome is not reached. Everything from times as simple as ruined parties to more extreme cases like acts of terror at functions are subject to times being ruined.

What to Do in Times of Ruined Special Occasions?

You hope times go well so you wouldn't be grieving or feeling depressed. It helps to have a support system to help console you in times of ruined happiness. Unfortunate things happen. You can't expect everything to go well. If it is something outside of your control, you did everything you could to make the occasion a great one. Things just did not go your way or as you hoped. If what occasion you wanted to take part in can be done something again another time, just prepare a future date and hope things go better the next time. Most of all, remain positive. You can certainly try again with certain things. For moments like graduation, giving birth, weddings, or anything like that; you may never get to experience such occasions ever again. Life goes on even if you do not get to experience certain things you were hoping for or wanted to experience. It is just unfortunate that what could have been a happy time for you had to result in something less than what you were hoping for. Just move on with your life and try to remain happy. If you can not get your happiness up, have someone help you be happy again.

If you are the victim of a certain crime that occurred during such special occasions, you must try to get in touch with authorities or law enforcement. Try to tell your story and seek justice for certain crimes committed to you. If a family member, friend, or loved one is the victim of a special occasion ruined by somebody else, contact authorities or law enforcement to act on the behalf of your family, friends, and/or loved one(s).

If a special occasion has been ruined thanks to natural disasters or things outside of your control, just know it wasn't your fault. You or nobody you know influenced a certain event to be a failure to you. Unfortunate things happen. It would be pointless for you to (for example) blame weather conditions for ruining an occasion, as if weather is supposed to cooperate with you. There are even times when special occasions ruined outside of your control Maybe such a special occasion ruined by something out of your control was ruined because of malfunctions. For example, let's say there was a party on some sort of boat or watercraft, and then the boat collapses or capsizes. Maybe a party takes place in a building or structure not sturdy. There was one moment at a condo near a certain university when a party happened to where the floor of a condo near a university collapsed, leaving people fall from that floor to the ground level. Maybe you are enjoying a certain special occasion in a carnival-like setting until a ride malfunctions. Maybe some kids are enjoying being in a bouncy house until the bouncy house deflates or some kind of injury happens. Certain things happen at certain times, and it is to no fault of your own. In another sense, you can't blame promoters of a party or a certain individual(s) for ruining your experience because of an event being canceled at the last moment or certain individuals being sick, injured, or even dead.

Final Thoughts.

A lot of different special occasions can be ruined by any number of means or reasons. If it is something caused by others, it can be entirely damaging if someone else ruined what should be a time to enjoy and be free. If the special occasion is ruined because of factors outside of your control, it is surely unfortunate something didn't go your way because of something you can't control. You just have to know that you may or may not get a chance to celebrate a certain occasion or a certain moment again. Do not entirely feel are unable to be happy or enjoy life because of such ruined events.


If a special occasion has been ruined thanks to natural disasters or things outside of your control, just know it wasn't your fault. You or nobody you know influenced a certain event to be a failure to you. Unfortunate things happen. It would be pointless for you to (for example) blame weather conditions for ruining an occasion, as if weather is supposed to cooperate with you. Certain things happen at certain times, and it is to no fault of your own. In another sense, you can't blame promoters of a party or a certain individual(s) for ruining your experience because of an event being canceled at the last moment or certain individuals being sick, injured, or even dead.

Most important thing to do in all of these times is to remain hopeful and happy. You were looking forward to some sort of happy time, but that happy time was denied for whatever reason(s). Not everything goes according to plan. Not every moment goes in a favorable outcome. It is life. Do not stress too much over certain moments or lament missed opportunities. These are all moments that help shape our lives for better or worse.





The most important thing to remember with blog posts like this is that I design these posts with the intent of helping someone who may want the help. I love (or at least respect) everyone who comes through seeking some sort of guidance and help through various life issues. Having said this, I hope this blog post struck a chord with you with advice you can use. All of us need help at some point. I hope my own help can be beneficial to you and others. You are NOT alone if you need help, so take advantage of whatever resources you may need. I am done here. I hope you got something useful out of this post. Before I close this post, I want to offer some discussion material in case you want to discuss this topic:

Has there been a special occasion been ruined for you? How did you handle the pain of that event being ruined if you have been involved in such an event? What would you recommend to someone to cope from a ruined special occasion?

Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Peer Pressure

Peer pressure is about other people trying to push you into doing things you otherwise do not want to do. It involves doing things to try to please others at the expense of embarrassing yourself or putting your health in jeopardy. Is it worth stressing yourself to try to appease to certain individuals? It mostly depends on the issue at hand and the challenge to try to complete. Peer pressure usually involves trying to do things so you can be better judged by people. This post

Sometimes when I think of peer pressure, I think of some Twitch stream chats. A streamer may sometimes ask for advice when playing a game. Someone may end up suggesting something completely weak or try to make a game harder than it actually is (or harder than it should be). Surely people have the obligation to try to appeal to as many people as possible. However, one can never please everyone. In some peoples' minds, not doing something right or not doing something to a level someone wants something to be done makes one person a failure. If you try to please everyone, you have already failed. Not everyone is going to enjoy you and your work. You wish you could have more people love you and your work; but like anything in life, you will have your fair share of people think poorly of you no matter how much you try to please as many people as possible.

Some examples of peer pressure feature dangerous or damaging acts to be committed. You may be pressured by peers to do something like damage property, pull a prank, or do something you don't believe in or want to do. If you do not accomplish these tasks, people will think of you less and regard you less than who you really are. As an example, let's say you were pressured by peers to smoke cigarettes or cigars. Or maybe you are pressured into chugging alcoholic beverages. You feel you have to accomplish these tasks so you would be properly respected by certain individuals. Failing to meet demands makes you feel like you failed certain peers. So the thought of peer pressure means you HAVE to do certain things in order to win the respect of certain people. This is no fact that you do things based on what YOUR interests and thoughts are as opposed to trying to please certain peers. Also, let's pretend you accomplished peer pressure tasks like smoking or drinking too much alcohol. You end up risking your own health trying to make certain people happy. Are you sure you want that kind of peer pressure in your life?

What makes peer pressure so stressing an issue is the feeling you are under constant pressure to perform well among those around you. Others would feel disappointed about you or would think of you in ways opposite of how you really are. You would feel disappointed if you feel you failed to impress certain individuals you want to impress most. This would especially be true if this was someone intimate to you- namely your family members or a loved one. On the other hand, what if those individuals you tried to impress most were students in your class, people you work with, or fans of yours in live streaming? The one thing you would have to concentrate on is who or what exactly are you trying to accomplish in performing any sort of act. Are you trying to appeal to a greater audience, or are you trying to simply do what you can no matter what anyone thinks? Peer pressure says you have an obligation to please everyone because you want people to think positively of you. If you don't have such peer pressure, then you are doing whatever you can with little or no interest in meeting certain peoples' needs or wishes.

Final Thoughts.

Before you try to do anything to anyone or with anyone, consider who all you are trying to impress. You don't have to please everyone, and not everyone will love you or your work. You shouldn't have to do anything opposite of your personality or beliefs just to appease certain individuals. Peers should have to acknowledge and recognize everyone is different. It is not possible to convert everyone to be "like everyone else." Don't mold yourself to meet someone else's standards. You know who you are what you are capable of- why let somebody else define you? You can not please everyone; and even if you tried, you will still have your fair share of critics. So it is best to just be yourself and not let anyone else judge you unfairly. Just remember who is more important in your life and what matters more to you than what society wants you to be.





That's it! You made it through another "John's Life Space" post! Care to discuss this topic?

How do you deal with peer pressure? Have you experienced any moments of peer pressure? If so, what did you have to do and how did you fare with peer pressure?

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Promiscuous Youth

Being young and promiscuous is a nightmare for parents. Promiscuous youth engage in violence, sex, drinking, smoking, and the like before age 18. They may even be rebellious towards their family and school faculty. In fact, some of these youth may have dropped out of school or simply stop going to school. The fear in these promiscuous youth is that they will suffer some kind of potentially permanent setback that ruins their lives for the rest of their lives. That is why certain people are reluctant to try to get such promiscuous youth under control as much as possible to prevent having an unhappy future. This blog post is a discussion about dealing with promiscuous youth.

Promiscuous Youth: a General Digest.

Mostly in the 1990s, daytime talk shows such as "Maury" and "The Jenny Jones Show" have featured out-of-control teens (and even out-of-control children). When such individuals don't get their way from parents or other family members, they resort to violence. Such promiscuous youth even are proud of being the school bully or even proud of abusing peers at school. Some promiscuous youth even think they know everything and need not go to school any longer. Especially promiscuous girls dress up in sexy and revealing clothing just to show they are grown adults. Some promiscuous types even somehow get their hands on tobacco and alcoholic drinks. They even open themselves towards sex and wild parties. Many promiscuous youth swear they love their parents. However, they (for lack of a better term) show their "love" by abusing their parents and family members physically, mentally, and verbally.

As you can imagine, parents of such promiscuous children and teens are usually worried sick. Some need help to try to tame such wild children. A fear of such parents is that a promiscuous youth will either catch some life-altering disease or end up being killed. In the case of a promiscuous girl, things like pregnancy scares and such will worry most parents.

Because adolescents and children can be abusive, that's why I labeled this blog post about promiscuous youth and not necessarily promiscuous teenagers. Now that you know a little about what I am trying to make mention to, it is my objective to try to help people with their situation(s) regarding this topic. So let's talk about trying to turn around troubled youth, both as parents and for the promiscuous youth themselves.

Video Insight.

To demonstrate the idea of out-of-control youth, I featured this video below. This gives you an idea of what some promiscuous youth can be like. WARNING: This material may not be suitable for all audiences:


^ I get straight A's...So I can do whatever I want! | The Maury Show

So this video gives you an idea of promiscuous youth.

How Do You Turn Around Promiscuous Youth?

On daytime talk shows, there were people who would take away their out-of-control children to scare them straight by taking them to jail. These would be moments in which the promiscuous children get a glimpse of where they are heading towards if they don't turn their lives around. Some parents may even try taking away certain liberties or habits from such out-of-control children. Or, and if you're old-fashioned like myself, there is one other true option- spanking. The only problem is that today's culture thinks spanking your children is child abuse. However, for old-fashioned types, it is sometimes the most effective method to turn around people despite it being such a questionable act.

Here is a resource for you parents dealing with this situation: Out of Control Teenager Tips and Advice

How to Turn Around Yourself, If You Are a Promiscuous Youth?

So what if you are reading this and you admit to being grown as a promiscuous child or teen? You basically don't care what your parents or any other authority figures think about you. The fact is that you will one day get hit with reality and realize you still have a lot of your life ahead of you. You live only once, and almost every decision you make will impact your life forever. You can tell me "YOLO" (you only live once) all you want and think you are invincible and impervious to almost anything; however, what happens when (not if) you get into a situation you can't squirm your way out of?

You are basically putting extra pressure on yourself by engaging in these questionable acts. Most promiscuous types later in their lives would probably enroll in some Adult High School program to get their GED. What some may have already accomplished much earlier in life is what certain former promiscuous youth may soon accomplish. Promiscuous teens need not worry early on in life about wanting to be a mother. Parenthood is a lifelong responsibility, so do not get involved in this if you are not reluctant to devote your life towards raising a child.

Final Thoughts.

It can be tough to try to turn around troubled youth. It becomes mind-boggling how one's own children can overpower his/her/their parents with violence. Do not give up in trying to teach youth right from wrong. I don't advocate or encourage this, but if you have to in trying to turn around troubled youth and want to take an extreme measure (and this is going to a VERY unpopular opinion of mine)- don't be afraid to spank your children. Just don't take the spanking punishment to child abuse levels.

As for the promiscuous youth themselves, the one thing you must realize is that the decisions you make in your young life could impact you for the rest of your life. So if you make a decision that is potentially dangerous, it will impact you for the rest of your life. Certain other decisions may even affect your health or even kill you. Make sure you know full well what you are getting into.


That's all from me. I might add some extra resources to help people who may be in this situation based on this blog post and its subject matter.





This was a tough topic, but I did what I could to bring light to promiscuous youth. How about a little discussion?

How do you (as a parent or family member) help a promiscuous youth? How do you (as a promiscuous youth) turn around your violent and suggestive ways?

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Autism

(UPDATED: April 8, 2019)

Autism is a medical condition that can adversely impact one's mental and social skills. Various influences in conjunction with autism can affect learning and actions. I will try to bring autism to light with this blog post. PLEASE do not take this post as a definitive resource on autism, because I do not know enough about autism to professionally discuss it. So this is more instead a digest on autism.

LATEST UPDATE(S)/REVISION(S):

APR 9 2019 - added an extra resource

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Austism

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I don't know everything about autism. Do not look at this post as a definitive look at autism. Let's still talk about autism here on "John's Life Space."


^ from: physioguru.com - "Always Unique Totally Intelligent Sometimes Mysterious."

Autism, also known as Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) involves a number of personal traits that result in problems communicating with others, repetitive behaviors, and more. It involves things such as elaborately explaining things in fancy ways while also having photographic memory of things. Pictures I've seen shown autism meaning "Always Unique Totally Intelligent Sometimes Mysterious." Males are more likely to have autism than females. According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), 1 in every 59 children are diagnosed with autism. Much like most cancers or certain diseases, if autism detected early in children, then things can properly be arranged to help treat autism or autistic symptoms. There is no cure for autism at present.

To my knowledge, I have no memory of being formally diagnosed with autism. I do admit there have been times where I have elaborately described things to others. I sometimes explain things in elaborate and creative ways. I sometimes showcase things in elaborate and creative ways. But again, to my knowledge, I have never formally been diagnosed with autism.

Autism is usually detected and acknowledged among children more than adults.

For More Information...

I am not adept in autism. When it comes to resources to help you understand autism better, I have provided the following links to this blog post. Take a look at these resources to learn more about autism:

• Autism Speaks
• Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)
• Understanding Autism - The Basics
• Autism Spectrum Disorder (Mayo Clinic)
• Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) (CDC)
• Autism Awareness - The Importance of Knowledge

(ADDED: April 8, 2019)
To help support autism research and such, try this link:

• The Autism Site

I may provide more resources of interest if I can find some more helpful resources on autism.





I hope you liked this post. Maybe I did enough to convince you in regards to making awareness to autism. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Rape

WARNING: The following topic may not be suitable for all audiences. Due to the subject matter of this topic, viewer discretion is advised. Parents of younger children will need to restrict or limit younger viewers from viewing this material. Otherwise, you are reading this material at your own risk.
Rape is sexual contact against the will of others. It is a despicable crime involving unnecessary and unsolicited sexual contact by sex offenders. The trauma and fear after getting raped could be damaging for a long time to come. If you are or become a rape victim, your life could be changed forever. This blog post concerns dealing with rape.

About the Label: "Crimes"

Acts punishable by law fall under the "Crimes" label. These are posts regarding certain crimes that can change peoples' lives forever. These involve a handful of actions ranging from simple cases such as theft, or more extreme cases such as hate crimes or terrorism. Because these actions by other people can adversely affect peoples' lives, they are featured as topics on "John's Life Space."

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Rape

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Rape involves unsolicited, unwanted sexual abuse towards others. It is a type of violence which involves sexually abusing others against their will. The methods of rape usually include sexual contact or sexual intercourse to unsuspecting individuals. What could happen after getting raped could scar someone for life. Namely, a rape victim could contract a sexually-transmitted disease (STD), become pregnant, or anything of that nature. So anyone who has been raped will need to act quickly to regain some sort of normalcy as quickly as possible.

One time in person, a friend of mine in college was raped. She was shy telling me of her pain. She didn't tell me out loud or anything because she was so panic-stricken. According to RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network), an American is sexually assaulted every 92 seconds; and of every nine minutes, a child is raped. Once you get raped, it becomes difficult to try to live your life normally. Needless to say, rape hits people pretty hard and in many different ways.

Who is At Risk of Rape?

Nearly anyone can be a rape victim. These incidents can happen in various heterosexual and homosexual romantic settings. Rape can happen among family members and immediate family members. Sexual abuse among family members and relatives is what is called incest. Rape in its own right is a despicable crime; even more disgusting is child rape, where children becomes victims of rape thanks to sex offenders. Rape can even happen among married couples. This is what is referred to as marital rape. While intimacy among married couples is good, it is unacceptable to sexually abuse one's significant other without the consent of that significant other. When there are multiple individuals who commit rape towards someone, this is gang rape, and it is worse than being raped by just one individual. It takes two or more individuals to gang rape someone. If you drink alcohol, there is a possibility someone may buy a drink for someone... but then put in date rape drugs in the drink to make someone feel weak, making it easier for a would-be sex offender to commit sexual assault to that person. So as you can see, rape can happen to anyone in any setting.

What to Do if Raped?

You certainly need to be mindful of feeling strange or anything if you have been raped. If you have been raped, immediately contact police and file a report. You may also want to meet with your doctor to see if you may have contracted a sexually-transmitted disease (STD). Also, you may want to take a pregnancy test in the possibility that you could have become pregnant by the rapist(s).

In the United States, rape is handled differently among different states. An organization called RAINN has defined a number of situations to determine what is and isn't considered proper cases of rape. You will need to act quickly and aggressively to handle your situation in such a time of crisis. Because of the enormity of the aftermath of being raped, few are actually courageous enough to report cases of rape. In fact, between 20% to 25% of actual rape cases are reported to police.


Allow me now to offer some final thoughts.

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Rape: Final Thoughts

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Rape is a despicable crime involving unwanted and unsolicited sexual violence among others against their will. It is a damaging act that can scar people for the rest of their lives. Effects such as contracting an STD or possibly females becoming pregnant can result from the actions of being raped. If you become a rape victim, act quickly to seek justice as well as make sure you are in good health. Do not be afraid to speak up after being raped. Do not be among the many whose rape reports are not reported to police. ACT QUICKLY. NOW.

Resources.

If you want assistance in regards to rape, here is a resources for you to use:

• RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network)

If I find other resources, I will add them to my list of available resources to you. Alternatively, you can contact me if you have any relevant resources that can be of good use to all of my readers based on any of my topics in this topic or any other.





I hope bringing awareness to rape will help to limit this as much as possible. Any blog post of mine on any topic will not guarantee curbing of the issue, but at least knowing and understanding certain issues will help bring the issue to light along with ways to handle certain situations. Care to discuss? Let's do so:

Have you or anyone you know been raped? How would you handle being raped, or how did you handle being raped (if you are a rape victim)?

I am here to bring certain life issues to light and offer advice where need be. That's what I do on "John's Life Space." Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Tomboys and Tomgirls

While individuals may be male or female, they may exhibit personalities and traits of their gender opposite of their birth gender. These are traits consistent of social norms and gender roles. Enter tomboys and tomgirls. Such individuals have strong qualities of their opposite gender. Some females may exhibit traits of males and enjoy things most males do. Likewise, some males may exhibit traits of females and enjoy things females do. Even if you identify as male or female, you may have certain qualities you feel are unique to you that usually seem exclusive to one specific gender. So allow me to discuss the concept of tomboys and tomgirls with this "John's Life Space" post.

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Tomboys and Tomgirls

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Social norms and gender roles suggest certain qualities of individuals. Regardless of sexual preference, males and females can exhibit certain qualities opposite of their birth gender. The more common term of the two expressed in this blog post is tomboy. What is being suggested is that a male or female only exhibits qualities their gender is most associated with. So for instance, males in society are often to be seen as dominant and incredibly phyisically able. Society, though, will frown upon a male who has a feminine persona or is not as hard-working and able as most other males.

Let me take some time to discuss this topic further.

Tomboys.

^ from: (Amazon) - Rosie the Riveter can be the perfect example of a tomboy, since she represents blue collar work, which not many average females would take part in.

Tomboys suggest these are females not entirely into cute, girly things. This is actually a misconception. There are plenty of females who love dressing up femininely, shopping, wanting to flirt with males, wear the hottest of-the-moment fashions, enhance their looks with various makeup products, adore things that are cute and pretty, enjoy smiling and being super-sweet, and more. However, those females who consider themselves tomboys may be the ones who have a tough masculine side to them. Among other things- playing intense sports, being tough, and almost anything associated with most males in society. A popular example of what would be considered a tomboy concept would be Rosie the Riveter. Rosie the Riveter exhibited boyish character in getting women to join the blue collar workforce. A tomboy does not have to a lesbian or bisexual. It just means a female just is not into what most females are commonly into. There are even females who choose to look and dress in masculine style clothing rather than wear exclusively feminine fashion items while still identifying as female.

Tomgirls.

A Facebook friend of mine got me to think about the concept of a "tomgirl." If a tomboy is a female who exhibits masculine qualities, then a tomgirl is a male who exhibits female qualities. So a lot of things most females enjoy are what tomgirls love. A male who identifies as a male and has tomgirl traits may be more in tune with dressing up femininely or even being into things females usually are into. So a tomgirl may want to look good wearing feminine clothing or even applying makeup. He may even enjoy wearing clothing showing his body, legs, or feet in feminine ways. If one could, a tomgirl could wish he were prom queen or even make the female cheerleading squad at his school or college. Much like tomboys do not have to be homosexual or bisexual, the same applies to tomgirls. Because of social norms and gender roles, people would often frown upon a male who is girly in nature. A tomgirl is not seen as a real man to society.

Is it Okay to Associate Yourself as Either a Tomboy or Tomgirl?

Some people do associate themselves as tomboys or tomgirls. Heck, some people even admit calling themselves a "pain in the butt" to others. So it is perfectly fine to think of yourself as a tomboy/tomgirl and even act in such ways. You can be male or female yet exhibit certain qualities unique to the other gender. It is all of what makes you unique as a person. Be a male who enjoys cute things and even wear the cutest clothes! Be a female who wears the cutest clothes but not be afraid of hard work or playing intense sports. Enjoy being yourself and having traits that make you YOU!

Other Reading.

Here is kind of an article that expresses a lot of the points mentioned in this blog post:

"Why girls can be boyish but boys can't be girlish" (CNN)


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ASMR

Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response, or #ASMR, is one of the most popular phenomena often seen especially on media such as YouTube or Twitch. It involves soothing sounds in a meditative manner. Certain things one doesn't expect to provide a calming atmosphere is used to provide one of the most unreal experiences to mind, body, and soul. Regardless of how you feel about ASMR in general, this blog post is a look at ASMR. Why should you care about it? Should you care about it? I offer my own thoughts in this blog post on "John's Life Space."

Before I Begin...

I am no professional on this matter, nor do I entirely am experienced with or follow this phenomenon much. So do not expect this post to be fully educational.

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ASMR

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Allow me to bring to light ASMR with this blog post.

ASMR, or Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response, is meant to relax people through the means of sounds. Almost like how some people find therapeutic value in hearing rain and thunder at night. It is seen as meditative and relaxing. Rather than have music or such going, ASMR mostly involves quietness and just letting simple sounds fill the air. ASMR can be an effective technique based on how it is executed. And by the look of things, one does not need any kind of formal training or fancy degree to specialize in ASMR or be qualified in providing ASMR.

Explaining the Phenomenon.

ASMR is described as offering a sensation that impacts your mind first and then going down your body in a trickle-down effect. You feel the impact of certain simple sounds being used to offer this meditative and relaxing experience. This style was exhibited on a mainstream scale recently with a Super Bowl commercial. During Super Bowl LIII, there was a Michelob Ultra commercial which featured ASMR to impact the mind and senses. A local here in Houston was interviewed on a local morning news show on FOX 26 here in Houston who also specialized in ASMR.

From my own experience, there are two individuals whom often dabble with ASMR- one on YouTube, and another on Twitch. I often think of the beautiful Tingting on YouTube, and I also think of Amouranth on Twitch.

ASMR Examples.

I will feature three different videos here. Because I know of only two individuals who specialize in ASMR, I figured I'd feature both of them in this one section from the previous section. So allow me to introduce to you TingTing and Amouranth as they provide ASMR for you. The two videos for Tingting and Amouranth will mostly be random.

But first, let me share the advertisement during Super Bowl LIII. Take a look:

^ The Pure Experience | Michelob ULTRA Pure Gold Super Bowl 2019

Up now is an example of an ASMR session from the beautiful Tingting. Subscribe to her channel if you enjoy her work:

^ [ASMR] Curing your Headache before Sleep

This is Amouranth from Twitch. Amouranth usually live streams ASMR on Twitch. You may subscribe to Amouranth on YouTube and follow her on Twitch if you enjoy her work. Here is an example of her ASMR work on YouTube for you to enjoy:

^ ASMR Triggers ? Tapping, Scratching, Brushing, & MORE

And finally, a local news team here in Houston tried their hand at ASMR. The result? See for yourself:

^ Houston's Morning Show tries ASMR (FOX 26 Houston)

Now you have an idea of what ASMR is about through these examples.

Can ASMR Be Helpful?

The benefits of ASMR are understandable. I personally am not into this kind of thing, but MANY people worldwide are drawn to the appeal of ASMR. There is a certain art and science of the use of certain sounds to provide theraputic and relaxing values.

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ASMR: Final Thoughts

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I am someone who does not take part in various Internet trends or social phenomena. One of those, being ASMR. For those who are into ASMR, though, I am not one to tell people how to live or what decisions to make. I will say that at least ASMR is something positive and something useful. I am just not as crazy about or as involved with ASMR as most social media types are.

Other Resources/Reading.

The best resource I can provide regarding ASMR is the one below. Feel free to learn more about ASMR from a much more qualified source than I. Also find some of the latest video material on ASMR from YouTube and Twitch:

• Autonomous sensory meridian response (Wikipedia)
• ASMR YouTube search (find YouTube material on ASMR)
• ASMR Twitch search (find Twitch material on ASMR)

Maybe with some added interest, I could find some more resources for you all to enjoy if I decide to post edits and updates to this blog post. I try to be as educated as much as possible to provide professional posts. However, I am sure there are things I have screwed up, so I am hopeful my more educated audience can assist me so that I provide the best possible material with little or no backlash.





This blog post has now concluded. Care to discuss? Here is my discussion to you:

What do you think about ASMR? Can it benefit people; and if so, in what ways?

This topic was a bit unique apart from my usual discussion of life issues. I just wanted to take a special look at ASMR just to bring it to light. I hope you appreciate my efforts. Meanwhile, thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Music Your Life Can Relate To

Music sometimes is something you can relate to. From love to breakups to motivation, music can define our lives and put everyday emotions into song. Music isn't just music to people- they can provide life snapshots. Especially those who provide amazing and real music can define even the best and worst life moments into song. So can you relate to life with music? Absolutely!

This is a different kind of post in the realm of life issues and relating to life. I hope you enjoy it!

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Music Your Life Can Relate To

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If you listen to a lot of music, you know there are all kinds of songs about all kinds of things. Or at least, those that have lyrics to them. Any song that can offer any kind of connection to your life is a song you can certainly appreciate. Same applies to music that provides a snapshot of the world we live in at present. Sometimes if offered, music can provide advice to help people deal with any number of issues. Nasty as it sounds, even raunchy songs of things like aggressive sex or intense drug and alcohol usage are things in music we can relate to.

My Personal Music Connection.

There is one song I've loved and believed in its meaning. Here it is:


^ Stevie Wonder I Just Called To Say I Love You

This is "I Just Called to Say I Love You" by Stevie Wonder. I must say that I believe in this song for two reasons. One reason is because I don't believe in having any specific occasion or reason to express love or respect. Like, I don't believe in Mother's Day, Father's Day, or Valentine's Day. Why one day out of the year to share love for someone? The other reason why I love this song is because I sometimes often simply say hello to people on social media whom I haven't talked to in a while or anything. Most people assume I say hello because I have some awful secret to share or something. I really wish people stop thinking I'm trying to un-friend them because I say something like, "I am pleased to be your friend!"

Either way, this is a song I strongly relate to and is a reflection of one part of my personality.

Can You Relate to Music?

A lot of people have wrote songs based on actual experiences in their lives. Some others demonstrate extreme cases and wild stores. A lot of music can consist of moments you can actually relate to. Such songs can be great because you actually feel connected to music instead of just listening to something that sounds good. Some other songs just sound a certain way that offer a certain tone that can you can relate to in life.

What to Take Away From This Post.

Something you can learn is that it is very okay to be drawn to music and the messages provided in songs. That is why a lot of songs from the 1990s and such are so revered and loved. Most people will argue that music today mostly is... just music. Just going for money. No character or personality to the music. And usually, the ones who do sing from the heart and write songs from the heart aren't as received as lot or mainstream music types. So keep listening to and enjoying music!





I hope you found this blog post interesting. Here is a discussion question for you in case you want to make this post active and lively:

What song(s) can you relate to? How do those songs relate to moments in your life or someone else's?

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You Are Loved

I recently celebrated my birthday on January 15 of this year, and this gave me some time to reflect. While I am pleased to celebrate another year of existence, I am more pleased gaining so many birthday wishes from others across social media. A time like a birthday, an anniversary, or even death in family and/or friends can make you wonder if people really do care about you. A fallacy of social media is that you seem to not like people as much if they don't immediately respond to you in the event of anything mentioned here. Fact is, not everyone uses social media religiously. So if you fall into this situation, think otherwise.

Through Facebook, I received over 70 posts to my timeline on my birthday. I usually have averaged 50-70 posts when it was my birthday. I even got a handful of birthday wishes through Twitter and Instagram. People didn't have to wish me a happy birthday or care that I have a birthday, but they offered their birthday wishes to me out of the goodness of others' hearts. They realize something like a birthday is a joyous and happy occasion. It means you have lasted long enough and have enjoyed being able to live and make yourself worthy to others. I was so pleased people worldwide took time out of their day to wish me a happy birthday. They were not required to, but they did.

Then there was a time when I discussed being away from online in 2017 when I was hospitalized for surgery for an infection. I was pleasantly surprised at the outpouring of support from others. Even people who didn't normally see my posts or comment on Facebook were offering their support. I have meant something to people so much that my presence is significant. If I passed away, it would feel like a huge void and huge hole would be in our world in replacing me.

Usually, I am told not to share some of my best and worst time since the only person who cares about these things is myself. However, there is a reason why I post things about my life. The big reason is to release my problems instead of bottle them in. Also, I am hoping my issues and advice can help others who may be in a similar situation.

What to Take Away From This Post.

If you have made a difference in others' lives and if you have meant some sort of importance in others' lives, you will gain the love and respect from other people. People love you even if you don't love yourself. You may need to find new people to befriend you if you feel the ones you are with don't trust or love you enough. Also, you don't ask for people to get into your life, but you appreciate that the ones who are in your life offer you their love and support. People who are sincere and honest will be the ones who offer their loving adoration and support even if they don't know you personally. It is always nice to know people care about you and worry about you.

I create stories like these and provide insight like this to help people feel better about themselves and others. I feel if we do not like ourselves much or feel loved by others, we don't love ourselves much. This leads to lower self-esteem, self-destruction, and at the worst- suicide (or at least suicidal thoughts). So we need to remind ourselves and recognize there are good people in this world and that there are people who do care about us. Even those who care even one iota about you are people you can appreciate and admire. We need things in our lives to remind us that people do care and that life can be enjoyable. Having people who care is one way to prove that point.

Most of all... I am posting this to say that you don't ask for people to offer you their kindness. However, in light of certain situations, it is always nice to know people care, even if remotely. So be thankful for the ones who stick with you and love you. People come and go, but love never dies or fails.


Long story short...

You are loved, and people DO care.





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