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Tuesday, April 17, 2018

Addition by Subtraction

John Marine | April 17, 2018 | | | | Be the first to comment!
Add to your life by subtracting things from your life. When you feel like you have everything, some things you have to let go. This is either from you letting something go or something gone from you. Either way, we sometimes have to take things out of our lives and move on. Most people don't want to let go of things they love or love doing. Like I wouldn't give up trying to share a lot of my creative works online. There are some times, though, where we have to cut something from our lives to feel better. These things we are subtracting may be things we are not fully comfortable with or feel like there is no real purpose in trying to keep supporting something. In these moments, it is best to add to our lives by subtracting.

Here is a quote I found that will set the mood of this blog post:

"Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away."

-Antoine de Saint-Exupéry


When to Subtract People or Things From Your Life.

What constitutes the desire to subtract from you and your life? Usually, you can be generally unhappy with something or reach a point to where you feel you don't matter to other people, or maybe something within you is slowly defeating you. In those moments, you need to subtract something from your life before things get worse. You might feel you are among great people, only to evenutally be in a situation that leads to you feeling unimportant or unwelcome no matter how sincere you try to be. This is a time for you to subtract yourself from a certain community. Even someone like myself tries to find the good in people. Unfortunately, I know I can only look to others only so much to where I ultimately feel I am not good enough or fit enough to be among certain communities. Even rough-around-the-edges people can be even remotely trusted and liked. Sometimes, though, it is never enough. You may even have certain habits that are really taking you down instead of building you up. Regardless, you have to learn when to let things go or move on from what you once loved.


The Tough (or Not?) Decision to Subtract from Your Life.

Giving things up is never easy. However, if you think it will help you in the long run with certain situations you face, it is for the better. Many of us have had friends who feel we have never done anything to harm them. Maybe you act in ways most people pertain as being damaging. Perhaps you have a lover (fiancé/fianceé/spouse) who you just can't love and care for. Whatever the case, if you feel the need to move on because things aren't going right for you, you will need to subtract such things and people from your life to add to your own happiness and well-being. Nothing is more hurtful than feeling like you lost the trust of people whom you loved. A lack of trust can bring anyone down. Getting rid of things you find joy in can hurt you if you feel you need to subtract that from your life. No matter what decisions you make, wanting to remove something from your life to make it better can involve making some sacrifices.

These are things that make us question what all we have and what we can give up. In the case of subtracting people and communities from your life, remember that you did not feel like you NEED certain people in your life or NEED to be in certain communities. Removing yourself from other people can go quite a way to you feeling more at peace and happier.


Are You Ready to Add to Your Life by Subtracting?

So if you feel the need to remove things from your life to improve it, think long and hard about what you need to get rid of to help make life better. It is proof that you can not always have everything. Some things you have to let go. Or if in the case of someone wanting to do away with you, addition by subtraction is done for you. It is probably better if some people stay to their own world rather than you try to fit into theirs. Addition by subtraction means many things to many people. How you handle these matters can go a long way towards preserving your own personal happiness.


Aftermath of Subtracting People and/or Things in Your Life.

If you do decide to subtract people and things in your life, you made the choice to be done with things. Whether you initiate the subtraction or if someone subtracts you from his/her life, you're done with them. You have a chance to move on and find new things to enjoy. You still may be reminiscent of happier times. That won't go away. However, feeling like you are not good enough to meet certain demands just means you have to move on. Why try to stay in a community where you feel toxic and unproductive?

For example, I try to be involved in certain communities, but I ultimately do not feel like I am any decent (let alone perfect) fit. So I feel I have to move on by getting rid of my involvement. It is a decision I hate to make, but if it makes me better and that I won't entirely regret, then subtractions of mine are justified. I am always someone who tries to see the good in people. I still find genuine respect in others even if I don't feel totally loved or belong. People have surely moved on from me. And a lot of times, I feel I have to move on when I feel Like I have done all I can to offer my love and respect. It is either never enough, or I am seen in a light opposite of how I see myself. Regardless, it is probably best just to move on. What is the point of trying to fix what is almost impossible to repair? You have to move on sometimes and subtract people and things from your life to add to it.





Addition by subtraction- just another of many different life issues I bring into the fold here on "John's Life Space." I don't make the best choices or do the right things all the time, but I do try to bring real issues to the forefront and offer my own advice. I hope you can appreciate my work.

How have you dealt with adding by subtracting in life?

I always try to bring up some depressing situations to try to offer some peace and some hope. It is the least I can do for this blog. All I want to do with "John's Life Space" is provide some guidance for those who may need it or wouldn't mind it. You do not have to like me. However, I hope you can at least respect me trying to provide material people can relate to. All I am trying to do is make sense of a senseless world, because life happens. So with all of this said, thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Friday, April 6, 2018

Breaking Points

John Marine | April 06, 2018 | | | Be the first to comment!
Somewhere in time, we reach our breaking point. These breaking points are the limits where we feel the need to take action after dealing with something. What happens when one's breaking point is reached? It depends. For example, someone used to taking insults may decide to get violent and aggressive towards his/her insultors. Some other person may break down and cry after so many people say so many bad things about himself/herself. There may be times even when breaking points actually ENCOURAGE people rather than perform some kind of action that can lead to trouble or punishment. No matter what, breaking points resemble any number of limits people have.

There are certain tolerance levels people have which make them feel either weak inside or want to exact violence or harm to life and/or property. This is where having certain breaking points can be potentially dangerous. We begin to do things we otherwise wouldn't do. Imagine if a sibling can't stand his/her parent(s) and feels like wanting to hurt his/her parent(s). Imagine a certain friend among a circle of friends who constantly feels disrespected and may threaten to go on a rage against someone or look to incite violence. In these cases, it is healthy to release your deepest emotions; however, the consequences and repercussions of your actions could be entirely damaging to you and your relationships with others.

Sometimes, reaching breaking points can trigger a call to action to make a change for the better. For example, a victim of domestic violence could reach a breaking point to where he/she will want to do something in the light of breaking up or divorce (in the case of married individuals). One can withstand only so much abuse and so much disappointment that one reaches a certain breaking point to call for change. It is as if you can push someone only so far until they decide to want to do something about it.

So how do you deal with breaking points? Realize that reaching a breaking point is very natural. It is okay to come to a point where you want change in your life after constant disappointment or the feeling of nothing getting done. Breaking points should never reach the point of inflicting violence, but reaching breaking points that may potentially lead to violence is just as natural. If you reach your breaking point, try to control your anger and emotions as best as you can. You want to be able to express your breaking point in a healthy way. If you feel your breaking point reaches the point of inflicting violence, try to control yourself to where you don't end up doing something you are going to regret for the near future or for the rest of your life. Your ability to handle reaching your breaking point and how you are able to let your stronger self emerge can make the difference in handling breaking points properly.





That is, at least, what I think about breaking points. What say you?

How do you handle reaching your breaking point? What would you suggest to others in the same sort of situation?

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Sunday, March 25, 2018

Tough Love

John Marine | March 25, 2018 | | | | | Be the first to comment!
Sometimes to discipline others and to teach life lessons, some employ "tough love" tactics. This is where individuals are subject to harsh conditions to teach certain important things. These may also involve learning for oneself. Tough love can be questionable, as most parents or other individuals would not put loved ones in harm's way. However, and if to teach a lesson, tough love tactics may be needed and is completely justified. This blog post is all about tough love.






Tough Love


Time to talk tough love.

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^ from: (True Beauty for Ashes) - Love shouldn't have to hurt. But sometimes, tough love is needed to show how much we care for others.

Tough Love Defined.

So what is "tough love?" Well, tough love is where you want to show you love someone or want the best in someone by putting them through harmful situations. You are putting someone through these trials in an attempt to see if that individual or those individuals can survive through them.

The reason why I think it is called "tough" love is because we often think of love as a concept not meant to hurt anybody. Love should be sweet and affectionate. Many people even have their own idea of what love really is. Sometimes, being a success involves being subject to harsh conditions. That is where the concept of "tough love" comes in. You still love someone and want someone to be their best; only that you are trying to show it in a way outside of a soft and comfortable manner. So rather than offer calming words and encouragement, you are instead putting someone in a situation one may not like to be in, but for the greater good of teaching certain life lessons.

An example of tough love for me personally was when I was a college student. My brother once made me type up or write down how I was managing my time in community college. I was allowed a half-hour to casually use the Internet. I hated that I had to document my time in the computer lab because I felt like I was THAT bad apparently. Granted I wasn't the world's best college student, this was tough love from my own brother to help me to be better in college. Did I enjoy being looked on as a failure? Not at all. I didn't like being looked on as a liability or a failure; but if someone saw something special in me and wanted to extract it out of me, then I could do nothing but take my "punishment." I don't have to love tough love to appreciate the concept.


Is Tough Love Fair?

To the ones who need lessons to be taught, of course it is not fair. Loved ones don't want to be in overly harsh settings or be looked on like slaves or animals. However, if the end game is to make someone cared about better, it is worth it if needed. Who wants to feel like they are poor members of society and are completely worthless?

As much as people don't want to be treated this poorly with tough love, it is sometimes needed to help someone. So tough love can be entirely fair even if people do not agree with this tactic.


The Psychology of Tough Love.

Someone who is in need of being taught some discipline often feel they are stupid. Almost as if one is a serial failure in life and seems completely hopeless and incapable of being a proper functioning member of society. Those who feel stupid and unloved often face depression or intense anger. If that level of disregard reaches a certain breaking point, then being taught tough love basically can make someone feel terrible.

On one end, someone taught tough love may come to a point where someone starts being even more self-reliant just to feel happier about oneself. Tough love can also increase the possibility of being isolated from loved ones and other individuals. These are mere side effects when someone feels they have to experience tough love just to be better regarded and to become better people.


Justifying Tough Love.

Because tough love is a harsh concept, some question it more along the lines of something like spanking children. Tough love is about trying to make someone better by subjecting others to certain harsh conditions. It may seem like abuse, but this is one of those "greater good" situations. Tough love is a concept you don't have to approve of to appreciate. It is more like a "last resort" to try to express love to someone or to help groom someone to be better. Tough love is certainly justified if the point is to make someone better by putting them into situations they are not happy to be in.


Now time for some final thoughts on tough love.




Tough Love: Final Thoughts


Love should not have to hurt. However, tough love is needed often times to try to show love and respect to others. It is love that involves hurt. Someone who is already feeling hurt does not need extra hurt or bad news to go along with whatever is bothering the individual. It is tough to grasp the concept of tough love as someone who is given tough love. People do not want to be looked on as failures or liabilities in life. If someone can be better, subjecting someone to tough love can help someone become better and help that person think for himself/herself. While tough love is meant to be a tactic for improving someone as a person, it can also be damaging and perhaps even test the limits of relationships between family and friends. Tough love is still something needed and justified if conditions call for tough love to be employed. It is an unconventional and potentially damaging way of showing love, but it is still love nonetheless.





This post has concluded. Thank you for visiting "John's Life Space!" Before I close this post out, allow me to ask you this discussion question if you enjoyed this post:

What are your thoughts on tough love? Have you employed tough love tactics to others? How have you handled tough love?

I have been busy with a lot of projects and stuff, so my rate of making blog posts has diminished. I still run this blog and others because there are still many things to get across to the world. I hope you appreciate my efforts with this blog and in my other work. So thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Social Media Unfriending/Unfollowing

John Marine | March 21, 2018 | | Be the first to comment!
Social media is usually my only connection to people I know personally. So when someone I think of and connected to drops me, I tend to wonder why. One person who seemed missing from my Facebook feed inspired me to blog about this topic. Most people wonder why they are no longer followed or friends when someone gets dropped. Let this blog post offer some thoughts of mine on why you or someone else may get dropped from someone's friend list in social media.

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Topics under this Label relate to social media life issues. These can be basic life issues on social media or social media itself.






Social Media Unfriending/Unfollowing


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^ from: (hover cursor over image for credit) - Friends forever? Think again, at least in social media...

It usually takes some time to get to be friends with someone online. It is usually a great feeling when you do finally get to connect with someone through social media. You become a part of that person's life once you connect through social media. Usually, the mindset I get is that someone whom I connect with among personal friends and those I don't know personally will stay for some long time. However, that is not always the case. Someone can easily do away with you as much as you tried to connect with someone in the first place.

What happens when you no longer follow someone or drop a friend online? You basically set up that disconnect from that individual. Especially if online is the only way you can connect with others, it is depressing when your only connection to someone is dropped. That is the way for me since going from a regular college student to a stay-at-home blogger. Many of my old friends from grade school and college are those whom I haven't seen in a long while. I always want to believe I did nothing to hurt anyone. Even still, I know I did things probably taken out of context. I also know that while I may or may not have done anything wrong, some individuals simply don't want anything to do with you anymore, even if you have been genuine and respectful. My mindset is that anyone whom I connect with is someone who I feel I have made a positive impact on that person's life. So if/when I get dropped by that person, I wonder if I did enough to remain respectful or if someone simply just has a change of heart and decides to move on from me.

No matter what, when you connect with someone on social media, you become a part of that person's life. What are you going to do when you are indeed connected? I had some incidents where people only connected with me to share suspicious websites, share my pictures and posts, and even to basically attack me with slurs and insults. If you are going to be friends with someone on social media, at least show you love and respect someone. You can then understand most reasons why people get dropped from friends lists in social media. Speaking of which...


Possible Reasons for Being Unfriended/Unfollowed.

There are many more reasons than what you will see here, but here are some of the different reasons:

• You did something to hurt that individual that is tough to forgive.
An example of this would be if you said hurtful things about someone behind that individual's back. You may have said some things to hurt someone, and the individual took offense to comments you posted elsewhere online. You may have (especially if you know someone personally) done something away from cyberspace to do harm to that individual. Rather than start an online firestorm, that individual may decide to simply drop you for your conduct towards that person.


• You rarely communicate with that individual.
One of my personal fears in social media is fearing I don't mean anything to anyone because I don't communicate often with that individual. That usually means I am just wasting someone's time and energy online. So I usually make some regular posts and think of others just to say I'm still here and still care in some capacity. One thing to understand is that not everyone checks their social media profiles all the time. So have some patience and understanding in this department.

This matter can really be a problem if you are connected with family, close personal friends, or even loved ones.


• The individual may only want to connect with personal friends and family.
If this were the old days of Myspace, this wouldn't be a problem much. However, in the case of services like Facebook (Which is vastly more personal), people often have extra profiles specifically for personal friends and family. Some people may even have their basic profile as the one to meet only personal friends and family. If this has happened to you and you still feel like contributing, try to find other ways to connect to show your appreciation at least as a fan. For example, maybe find another social network or seek some kind of fan page for that person. Maybe those are ways you can still be connected regardless.

When I connect with others, it is with loving interest and respect. I want to simply show I care about individuals on a personal level.


• Someone may have just chosen to delete certain individuals connected, and chose you among the deleted.
There are some people who feel like they have extra "clutter" among social media connections. And so, they decide to get rid of a bunch of people for whatever reason. The reasons vary as to why some people are dropped from friends lists. Sometimes, the ones most likely to get deleted are the ones who want to be friends just for the sake of being friends. These are usually the ones who want to simply share your pictures and posts, and they mostly don't want to do much towards showing respect for you as a person.

At other times, there are people who get dropped from friends lists simply because they have certain thoughts and opinions you are comfortable with. For example, someone's take on governmental policies or religious matters offend you. Such individuals who think in ways different from you can lead to not wanting to be associated with others. This can also lead to being unfriended if you are with someone.

Some people on social media will post things like, "let's see if people will respond to this post," usually asking you to post a certain comment or respond in a certain way about a certain topic. I do NOT take part in such posts. I don't do chain mail online. It is just my preference, and there are just some social networking things I don't take part in. To some people, it is important to participate in all of what someone tries to get others involved in. If you don't get involved, you could be unfriended/unfollowed by some people. You shouldn't have to be involved in everything even if you are pressured into doing things you don't do or believe in. For example, would you drink or smoke with friends even if you don't drink or smoke? People have to respect others' views and beliefs.


• While being supportive, you may have made a gesture meant to be a compliment but taken as an insult to that individual.
People usually say I am too kind or too sweet to others. I've said and done dumb things before. So I don't always say the best things. Things meant to be seen as compliments are often taken in a negative context. As a result, I have damaged a bond between myself and whatever individual I was trying to compliment.

One personal example is that I used to do "Follow/Favorite Friday" on Twitter. Some hated that I would include them in #ff posts on Twitter and block me. Always know that I try to be supportive and active. Some people, however, think differently with things like Follow/Favorite Friday on Twitter. I actually stopped making such posts like that even as someone said nobody does "#ff" posts anymore.


• The individual may have just simply moved on from you.
You care about someone with a great amount of heart, but someone simply has moved on from you. You probably did nothing wrong. All that happens is that there is an old friend of yours who simply wants nothing to do with you even if you did nothing to harm someone. It happens. Many of my old grade school and college friends probably don't even know me anymore or don't see me as being anyone relevant anymore. Nothing you can do about it. That person moved on from you, and you probably have to move on from that individual as well.


• The individual may have simply given up on social media.
Some people may just do away with social media entirely. You did nothing wrong in this case- that person just decided to do away with social media. It has happened to me before. There's nothing you can do about it. You did nothing wrong- that person just doesn't want anything to do with social media anymore. Being on social media is not essential to living.


Personal Admittances of Unfriending/Unfollowing.

I mentioned people who seemed to only follow for the sake of friends. Sometimes on Facebook, I note some people don't use Facebook much or comment much. I usually check on birthdays if someone really is active. I am well aware that not everyone uses Facebook (or any other social network medium) all the time. However, if the only connection is through making posts on peoples' birthdays, I usually drop that person. Chances are, someone who does not post often or even care to say "thank you" or anything, that's when I usually move on from certain individuals.


It is now time to make some final thoughts to conlude this post.




Final Thoughts


No matter who you come across in life, you will meet people whom you highly respect and those whom you disrespect in some capacity. You are part of a person's life when connected through social media. Some people even see it is a necessity to be with someone through social media. Despite this dependence on social media, not everyone stays with you all the time. The feeling of being dropped by someone who you care about or find importance in can be damaging. It becomes case of unrequited love that leaves you feeling unloved. Or in other words, the individual you care about may not love you or care about you enough as much as you care about that individual. There are cases where the individual does not put an emphasis on social media much to actually care. In some sad-but-true cases, the person may have simply moved on from you even if you did nothing really wrong to trigger someone dropping you from his/her friends list and his/her life. It may also be possible that someone simply does not want to get involved with social media a whole lot regardless of how much you try to involve others.

If you have been dropped previously, you can try to make attempts to get back with that individual online. If your attempts fail, you may simply have to just move on; that person already did with you. Not everything is your fault if you feel you are fault. So don't be hard on yourself if you are in this situation. Also note that not everyone consistently and regularly follows social media. It is not the end of the world or the end of your life because certain individuals have dropped you from social media. It may just mean you have to look elsewhere and meet new people. Friends come and go both in real life and on social media. Honor your current and old friends, but always seek to meet new people and show new respect for new individuals.





I hope this helps some of you and maybe help you relate. Want to discuss this topic?

How do you deal with unfriending/unfollowing on social media? What constitutes wanting to unfollow/unfriend someone to you on social media?

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Friday, March 2, 2018

Productivity

John Marine | March 02, 2018 | | | | | Be the first to comment!
Being productive is a good way to establish yourself. According to a report, March is told to be the least productive month of the year for most people. This post is about productivity and being productive. Hopefully this will offer some insight in being better in this department. So let's begin!



Productivity at a Glance


There is no worse feeling for me than that of not getting anything done and no progress being made. Working alone or with others can help or hinder being productive. Everyone must be working and focused to make productivity work. What happens when are NOT productive? Well for one, nothing gets done or takes a while to get done. A number of factors can contribute to whether or not work gets done. We all have to try to work to the best of our ability on anything we take part in or are assigned to do.

More than anything, I think physical and/or mental fitness can play a serious role in being productive. If you lack the energy to do things, you will not be productive. Productivity involves being fully focused and able to do anything you set your mind and heart to. Do you have to be at your very best to be productive? Well, not really. You may be sick or not fully healthy yet still be fully productive. It is much the same way that you don't have to be slim and slender to be healthy. Some people may be healthy despite being overweight. What you must remember is that in order for tasks to be complete, you have to make the most of your effort to work as well as be able to complete a task in an efficient manner. Even tasks that may take longer than others need to be done in an efficient way to complete tasks without exceessive losses of time.

You have to motivtate yourself or have someone try to motivate you if you lack the energy to be productive. I usually am hard on myself if I try to complete a task that could be completed in a shorter amount of time than what I usually end up with. If you beat yourself up over this, you won't get anywhere. So you need to have some patience and some promise. Motivate yourself; just don't punish yourself or be too hard on yourself.

If it seems you can't make yourself more productive, take a break from what you're doing and figure out what you need to do to try to complete tasks better. You may need to take a new approach to enhance your chances of being more productive. Most of all in being productive- do not give up or deem something impossible. If there is no hope of getting the outcome you are hoping for, then it is okay to give up on something. You still must try not to let even the littlest of shortcomings alter your level of productivity.


Final Thoughts.

As Final Thoughts for productivity, just try to keep yourself motivated and focused. Try to get yourself "in the groove," so to speak, to try to complete tasks. Also try to complete tasks in an efficient manner if you can. It is probably best if you can try to work with others to complete the same task. If you do not have others to work with you, then it is up to you to deliver in a solo effort. These factors all contribute to how productive you can be.





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Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Teaching Children the Truth About Life

John Marine | February 20, 2018 | | Be the first to comment!
Children are supposed to have fun and learn about things. Being a kid is all about carefree fun. However, there is a point where life's harsh realities must be taught. The rash of school shootings in 2018 surely have put parents in concern. There is a fine line to walk here in teaching children about the dangers of the real world. You want to be able to warn them of the kinds of people that are out there. At the same time, though, you don't want to fully scare them or make them feel miserable. So finding that delicate balance can go a long way.

About the Label: Parenting

Topics under this Label relate to various issues regarding parenting. These topics can include simply being a parent or issues regarding parenting to children.





Inspiration For This Post.

Most of the inspiration for this blog post is perpetrated on events such as the mass shooting at a Miami-area High School on Valentine's Day 2018. Every parent fears his/her child(ren) being affected by possible disasters either of natural or terrorist variety. We all know these dangers exist; we all as parents just need to find ways to teach children properly about some of the less fun aspects of life. At some point, we all need to educate our youth on dealing with incidents such as kidnapping, drugs, gangs, and even sexual intercourse. Life is not always rainbows and butterflies. It is also not fun and games. Either parents will need to teach their children properly about the dangers of life, or (in some sense) the children themselves will probably learn about life the hard way. A big difference can be made when children learn valuable lessons in subjects other than any subject in school.


Dealing With Disaster as a Child.

I mentioned the rash of school shootings that has rampaged 2018. A parent can not always be with his/her child(ren) all the time. So there has to be a way for children to deal with various incidents. It is never easy. A lot of what can happen to a child could impact that child for the rest of his/her life. There is no way we can lessen the potential impact of such incidents towards children, but strides can be made in terms of self-defense. I can recall as a youth as being taught ways to deal with being kidnapped, facing people who have weapons, and things of that nature. No school's curriculum will ever teach life lessons. These are things you will have to learn from parents or from certain other qualified individuals.

The disasters in question can range from potentially violent situations to certain natural disasters. For example, just about every school here in the United States often has Fire Drills. We learn how to deal with if something catches fire or if we catch fire. Tactics such as "stop, drop, and roll" help in these situations if we catch fire. Maybe there is a case where someone has stopped breathing, and we need to perform CPR (cardiopulmonary resuscitation) to help save lives.


Violent Disasters Among Children.

Now for violent-related disasters. We all greatly fear our children or any loved ones being kidnapped or held for ransom. There was a time when one of my High School classmates was kidnapped. Thankfully, she was okay and returned to class. I was disgusted because there were fellow classmates who didn't seem to care as much that she was able to escape kidnapping.

There may be incidents where a child could be in trouble to be beaten down. These can be acts of hate or just simply a violent fight. The results can range from injury to death. Even if at the expense of getting into trouble for fighting, a child has to defense himself/herself from any kind of physical violence.

A much more stressing situation is that of lethal weapon violence- such as in shootings or stabbings. I know I am discussing children and disasters here, but mass shootings of any kind can happen in places other than in school. A High School teenager could be simply going to a concert or to a movie theater and can possibly be in the line of fire by a certain gunman. Simply being careful and alert can go a long way in protection from such violent acts. As the saying goes, "if you see something, say something."


Final Thoughts.

We can't always be around our children through all situations, but we can help to try to keep children alert and aware of the dangers we face in society and in life. We must do so in a way that will keep individuals aware through all sorts of potentially horrible situations. The last thing a parent wants to endure is to see his/her children either cooped up in a hospital bed or put into a casket. Even if you are not a parent (or at least a relative), we must do all we can to help educate children on the dangers of life. At some point, we have to have these talks to help keep our children safe. The lessons learned from life experiences can be just as vital as any school subject. All we need to do is make it happen to help children safe for years to come.


Extra Final Thoughts.

Since I mentioned the school shootings as inspiration for this blog post, I would like to offer my thoughts and prayers to all affected in school shootings across the United States this year. I hope you all can find safety and solace in these tough times.





That concludes another post on "John's Life Space." From comical matters to serious matters (such as this one), I am doing all I can to provide something positive for others to use.

How do you teach your child(ren) about the dangers of life?

Are there any topics you want to see me cover in the future? Feel free to contact me, and I may use your idea in a future blog post if I can do a good enough post on it or have good enough advice to share. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Wednesday, February 7, 2018

Potential

John Marine | February 07, 2018 | | | | Be the first to comment!
Potential is hope and promise towards success. It is not success itself, but more like what success is possible. One must have hope in something for it to be successful. Without this hope, potential is wasted. Nothing can ever be successful if no one believes success is possible. So potential comes in as a means of what can be possible. For potential to really matter, the vision must be realistic. For instance, not every seed or sapling grows to be full and complete plants or trees. When you see something that has potential, it means you see something greater than what something originally is. This kind of thinking is always wishful and promising. How you get someone or something to realize (or even exceed) its potential depends on your ability to make magic happen.

Here is a unique case for me. There was a device in the mid-late 2000s that was heavily backed by funds. It was called the OUYA- an Android gaming console. It was a chance for independent game developers to develop games for this gaming console. However, it became an utter failure in the eyes of many people. I, for one, was intrigued at the possibility of developing my own game for the OUYA. The OUYA essentially was bought out by the Razer Forge TV. Then some of a lot of the developed games ended up with this Chinese firm. Still- the main point of all of this was the vision of making quality (or what was deemed as quality) games for the OUYA. If I didn't see the potential and try to recognize that potential, then I never would have bought an OUYA in the first place.

Now for another realistic example of potential. "John's Life Space"- which you are reading now, is my latest blog. I have potential to try to grow it to be as much as my other blogs. How do I realize that potential? For one, I at least have to keep the content flowing. Everything else hinges on how the rest of the world views my material and makes it popular. The potential of all of my blog here is there- will it be realized? It's up to you!

Part of potential is in realizing it. The other part of potential is working to make whatever vision possible. You still have to have a vision of making something better than what it is at present. Once potential is realized, how do you act to make something better? That all is up to you. This is true whether you are trying to tap into the potential of someone or something, or if you you are trying to find potential within yourself. Either way, the quest to make good things better is a long and grueling task. But regardless, ANYTHING is possible once potential is realized and tapped into. So keep working to make the impossible possible!





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Thursday, February 1, 2018

"I Am NOT My _____!"

John Marine | February 01, 2018 | | | Be the first to comment!
There are many ways to think of others. What is NOT fun is thinking of someone for an aspect that defines their personality. For example- seeing someone for their body fat or as a sexual pleasure object. When you think of someone for something besides their personality, it brings them down and makes them live, but not exist. The one thing you don't want to think about when thinking of other people is to regard them for qualities that do not match their personality or character. Here are a few examples...

So often overweight people get put down as being thought of as blobs of fat. Okay- so maybe someone is overweight or is a bit wider and bigger than average people. Does that disqualify such individuals from being regarded as positive influences? Does that disqualify such people from being immensely caring and friendly? Even worse is to think of overweight people as walking death. In this sense, how do you know if someone has underlying health issues? Maybe someone overweight could be fairly healthy even if they don't look healthy.

Another sad case usually involves some females. More often than not, some are disrespectful towards females by regarding them only for their physical features rather than regard them for being genuine people. It is understandable how some individuals have certain assets that make them unique. However, I think you mostly disregard what kind of person one is when you only regard them for one certain aspect of their bodies. For example, some males only regard a certain female for having nice buttocks and not much else. Some females may have big breasts, and again- some ONLY regard such females for having big breasts. Do some people actually forget that these are people?

I am not sure how certain females are towards males, but I think there are some who only think of some hunky males as being muscles... and not much else. My out-of-shape self is no hunk. At least I still have aspects about myself outside of my image that define who I am as a person.


The "What I Be" Project.

A project was started by a person named Steve Rosenfield in which people discussed being defined ONLY by certain aspects of their lives or their body image that are NOT tied to who they are as people. The insecurities of others are written on their faces and other parts of their body to make for powerful photography. A lot of the concepts expressed in this blog post are about the same things that the "What I Be" Project is all about. In simpler terms, this project shows that you can disclose your insecurities, but these insecurities do NOT define us as people. The WIB project has become incredibly popular since. It even became the top art story on Huffington Post.

Here are some example videos of people who participated in the "Who I Be" project (WARNING - some mild language):


^ What I Be Project - Roberto "I am not my exterior"


^ What I Be Project - Samantha "I am not my weight gain"

If you would like to learn more about this project, please visit: www.whatibeproject.com.


Final Thoughts.

If you are going to judge someone, at least get the opportunity to learn more about someone before you judge them. Even if someone is not who or what you would consider acceptable to be friends with or communicate with, at least learn to look within certain people before you judge them. The proverbial "judging a book by its cover" does not always work. A person's most striking quality may be the best way you remember someone. However, that striking quality or those striking qualities do NOT define someone as a whole. So go easy on looking for ways to attack people. People would rather exist in society than just live in society. How you think of someone can be damaging, especially if you think of something about them outside of their personality and character.

So think twice before you think about somebody for a quality besides their personality or character. It is okay to have certain aesthetic qualities that make us unique, but they do NOT define who we are as people. Who we are as individuals are MUCH more than any physical features. It is even worse when we are ONLY seen for certain external features and not for our personalities. It is okay to not be slim. It is okay to have an arousing body. It is NOT okay, though, to only regard people for certain unimportant features about them. Can you see the person within how someone looks? People, whether you like certain ones or not, are MUCH more than whatever non-important features are. People have hopes and dreams. People are fit to love and be loved. It is disrespectful to disregard such aspects of people or lower individuals more than who they really are as people.

I think it is too bad we regard people for things that don't even define who they are. Yet still, we do so anyways; and in turn, people have lowered self-esteem and do not feel as loved around other people. It is a terrible shame. But do some of us accussed folk care? Absolutely not. Some of us insenstive folk feel better knowing we potentially ruined the life of someone who we don't even care to know or think we know. Ruining someone's self-esteem in this sense can bring such individuals to think less of themselves and feel completely worthless. In extreme cases, they may even hurt themselves or others. Are you sure you want to take that chance of regarding someone so poorly to where you neglect someone to have hopes and dreams, good health, and love?

In other words...

People are NOT one specific aesthetic aspect of them!





I bring up depressing topics like this because I want to try to make life better for others by bringing up hurtful topics and thoughts. We learn to live better lives when we can make positives from even the most depressing issues. More importantly, I feel it is best to take these horrible topics and offer positive light and guidance. We can make the world a better place, or we can keep things as is to where we are more reluctant to die rather than make the most of what time we have in this world. Your call. Either way, thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Saturday, January 20, 2018

Hopelessness

John Marine | January 20, 2018 | | | Be the first to comment!
Hopelessness is as exactly as it sounds. You just have very little reason to believe in anything anymore because you lack hope and encouragement. Hopelessness can lead to low self-esteem and depression. A lack of hope means you are unable to do anything with confidence in achieving a positive outcome. It is tough to do anything or think in any manner because the inevitable happens (at least, what you consider inevitable)- impending failure and disappointment.

When you are hopeless, there is almost no point in trying something because you are bound to fail. This is the kind of feeling that dooms most individuals even before would-be failure happens. You learn to give yourself hope in anything and everything you do. When you do not have this hope, all you are doing is wasting your time and energy trying to make the impossible possible. Hopelessness is wanting a plant to become a huge tree, but unable to because one doesn't think it will ever be at its best. Hopelessness is teaching your child how to be a better person and learn concepts in school, but unable to because you feel that child will bring home bad grades or get into trouble. Being hopeless is basically reverse encouragement. Where we try to give hope and endorsement that things will provide a positive outcome, it ultimately leads to a totally lost cause as inevitable failure happens.

Having hopelessness take over your mind is a feeling of self-doubt and weakness. You can't smile or feel happy about anything when you feel nothing ever goes right for you. It is mind-numbing to imagine you can never become the successful individual you know you can be. It is okay not to think you are going to fail. That is natural. However, you try to defy any feelings that you will fail by doing your best to succeed at whatever you think you are going to fail at. Giving yourself hope and believing in hope helps you feel better and become more confident. Certain external factors also contribute to giving yourself hope. Even things outside of your control can be factors in hope.

The feeling of hopelessness can lead to feeling like nothing good ever happens. Most of the time, nothing good ever happens because one doesn't believe anything good can ever happen. You have to believe in yourself and your abilities. You can always teach yourself to do a task better, or gain some support from other people. You may even need other people to help encourage you if you lack hope. The moment you give up trying to work for a positive outcome and a positive future, that is where hopelessness hits you the hardest. Do whatever it takes to try to get yourself motivated and confident. You are not a weak person just because you require assistance from others. I have said this for the longest since first starting "John's Life Space."

If you find yourself lacking hope, learn to become confident and able. Even if you are not overly qualified to accomplish a task, at least give yourself a chance that you CAN pull through in the toughest of times. If you don't give yourself that chance, congratulations- you let failure win.


Bonus Material!

Here is a powerful video I found online if ever you feel down on yourself. I looked this up almost randomly preparing this blog post on hopelessness. Take a look:


^ WHEN YOU ARE HOPELESS - Inspirational Video (very emotional!)


Maybe this will help all of you to become better people and fight off hopelessness.





I often hope I am providing hope for others with my blog posts and my advice. Life is too short to think we all feel as if we are just living to die when we have the chance to live to live. Just remember:

Keep hope alive!

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Anniversaries

John Marine | January 20, 2018 | | | Be the first to comment!
Anniversaries mark when certain instances happen. There are anniversaries of good moments and bad moments. Anniversaries are special in relationships. Better not forget your lover's anniversary! Anyhow, anniversaries are great to remember because it is special seeing just how far times have changed since such moments occurred.

Do you know what today is?


Tony! Toni! Toné! - Anniversary

:) I had to offer some kind of lighthearted approact to this blog post is. Here is another mood-setter...

Happy Anniversary
^ from: (Pinterest) - Anniversaries can be happy reminders. However, not every anniversary is a good one.

For some individuals, anniversaries can be happy reminders or bad ones.


Happy Anniversaries.

Surely remembering your first date with someone with a total stranger whom you eventually fell in love with and married and have children with is a happy anniversary. Remembering the day you silenced doubters by graduating from High School or college is an anniversary to celebrate. You may even remember the day you bought the house you still live in and enjoy. You could even celebrate years at your current job. These are all examples of happy anniversaries. They give you a chance to look back on moments that bring you joy and smiles.


Not So Happy Anniversaries.

Some anniversaries, however, can be bad ones. Bad meaning anything from certain failures to depressing to somber anniversaries. A bad anniversary may be when you can remember getting into that car crash or when you were suspended from school for fighting. You probably got injured on one certain day. Maybe it was a certain day when someone you loved died or was killed. Or maybe you endured a seriously unhappy (or potentially life-threatening) anniversary- in the event of things like a natural disaster, a horrific accident, or some kind of terrorist attack. These are moments that tug at you and test your happiness moving forward.


Indifferent Anniversaries.

Some anniversaries are not related to personal happiness or anything- they may simply be moments in history. For example, there are anniversaries such as when nations were born. Some anniversaries can involve certain landmark moments in history- such as women getting the right to vote or certain ethnicities getting certain rights previously barred from them. It could be the end of segregation in some societies. These are anniversaries that have you either liking or hating. Most of these anniversaries are more just memorable moments that have changed history.


What to Take Away From Anniversaries.

No matter what event(s) took place on a certain day or in a certain year, you always try to look back on how far you've come while also looking ahead to a brighter future. Hopefully a future that involves great happiness and joy ripe for the taking. If you become preoccupied with sad memories, that's all you're going to remember and endure for quite some time. It is good to remember the good and bad moments in your life. These are times that define you as you continually life and learn in making yourself a better person.

So be sure to remember the good and bad times in your life. Praise the good moments in your life, but always be hopeful to enjoy many more happy moments. Recall the tough times in your life, but look to learn from your failures or try to be more careful from such harsh moments. There is still a whole lot of your life ahead of you. Look back, move forward. That is what I say and suggest in regards to anniversaries.





Feel free to acknowledge anniversaries for what they are and what they are for.

What are your thoughts on anniversaries in general?

Thank you again for visiting "John's Life Space." Because... life happens. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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