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Tuesday, February 19, 2019

Tomboys and Tomgirls

John B. Marine | February 19, 2019 | | | Be the first to comment!
While individuals may be male or female, they may exhibit personalities and traits of their gender opposite of their birth gender. These are traits consistent of social norms and gender roles. Enter tomboys and tomgirls. Such individuals have strong qualities of their opposite gender. Some females may exhibit traits of males and enjoy things most males do. Likewise, some males may exhibit traits of females and enjoy things females do. Even if you identify as male or female, you may have certain qualities you feel are unique to you that usually seem exclusive to one specific gender. So allow me to discuss the concept of tomboys and tomgirls with this "John's Life Space" post.






Tomboys and Tomgirls


Social norms and gender roles suggest certain qualities of individuals. Regardless of sexual preference, males and females can exhibit certain qualities opposite of their birth gender. The more common term of the two expressed in this blog post is tomboy. What is being suggested is that a male or female only exhibits qualities their gender is most associated with. So for instance, males in society are often to be seen as dominant and incredibly phyisically able. Society, though, will frown upon a male who has a feminine persona or is not as hard-working and able as most other males.

Let me take some time to discuss this topic further.


Tomboys.

Rosie the Riveter tomboy
^ from: (Amazon) - Rosie the Riveter can be the perfect example of a tomboy, since she represents blue collar work, which not many average females would take part in.

Tomboys suggest these are females not entirely into cute, girly things. This is actually a misconception. There are plenty of females who love dressing up femininely, shopping, wanting to flirt with males, wear the hottest of-the-moment fashions, enhance their looks with various makeup products, adore things that are cute and pretty, enjoy smiling and being super-sweet, and more. However, those females who consider themselves tomboys may be the ones who have a tough masculine side to them. Among other things- playing intense sports, being tough, and almost anything associated with most males in society. A popular example of what would be considered a tomboy concept would be Rosie the Riveter. Rosie the Riveter exhibited boyish character in getting women to join the blue collar workforce. A tomboy does not have to a lesbian or bisexual. It just means a female just is not into what most females are commonly into. There are even females who choose to look and dress in masculine style clothing rather than wear exclusively feminine fashion items while still identifying as female.


Tomgirls.

A Facebook friend of mine got me to think about the concept of a "tomgirl." If a tomboy is a female who exhibits masculine qualities, then a tomgirl is a male who exhibits female qualities. So a lot of things most females enjoy are what tomgirls love. A male who identifies as a male and has tomgirl traits may be more in tune with dressing up femininely or even being into things females usually are into. So a tomgirl may want to look good wearing feminine clothing or even applying makeup. He may even enjoy wearing clothing showing his body, legs, or feet in feminine ways. If one could, a tomgirl could wish he were prom queen or even make the female cheerleading squad at his school or college. Much like tomboys do not have to be homosexual or bisexual, the same applies to tomgirls. Because of social norms and gender roles, people would often frown upon a male who is girly in nature. A tomgirl is not seen as a real man to society.


Is it Okay to Associate Yourself as Either a Tomboy or Tomgirl?

Some people do associate themselves as tomboys or tomgirls. Heck, some people even admit calling themselves a "pain in the butt" to others. So it is perfectly fine to think of yourself as a tomboy/tomgirl and even act in such ways. You can be male or female yet exhibit certain qualities unique to the other gender. It is all of what makes you unique as a person. Be a male who enjoys cute things and even wear the cutest clothes! Be a female who wears the cutest clothes but not be afraid of hard work or playing intense sports. Enjoy being yourself and having traits that make you YOU!


Other Reading.

Here is kind of an article that expresses a lot of the points mentioned in this blog post:

"Why girls can be boyish but boys can't be girlish" (CNN)


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Friday, February 8, 2019

ASMR

John B. Marine | February 08, 2019 | | | Be the first to comment!
Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response, or #ASMR, is one of the most popular phenomena often seen especially on media such as YouTube or Twitch. It involves soothing sounds in a meditative manner. Certain things one doesn't expect to provide a calming atmosphere is used to provide one of the most unreal experiences to mind, body, and soul. Regardless of how you feel about ASMR in general, this blog post is a look at ASMR. Why should you care about it? Should you care about it? I offer my own thoughts in this blog post on "John's Life Space."


Before I Begin...

I am no professional on this matter, nor do I entirely am experienced with or follow this phenomenon much. So do not expect this post to be fully educational.






ASMR


Allow me to bring to light ASMR with this blog post.

ASMR, or Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response, is meant to relax people through the means of sounds. Almost like how some people find therapeutic value in hearing rain and thunder at night. It is seen as meditative and relaxing. Rather than have music or such going, ASMR mostly involves quietness and just letting simple sounds fill the air. ASMR can be an effective technique based on how it is executed. And by the look of things, one does not need any kind of formal training or fancy degree to specialize in ASMR or be qualified in providing ASMR.


Explaining the Phenomenon.

ASMR is described as offering a sensation that impacts your mind first and then going down your body in a trickle-down effect. You feel the impact of certain simple sounds being used to offer this meditative and relaxing experience. This style was exhibited on a mainstream scale recently with a Super Bowl commercial. During Super Bowl LIII, there was a Michelob Ultra commercial which featured ASMR to impact the mind and senses. A local here in Houston was interviewed on a local morning news show on FOX 26 here in Houston who also specialized in ASMR.

From my own experience, there are two individuals whom often dabble with ASMR- one on YouTube, and another on Twitch. I often think of the beautiful Tingting on YouTube, and I also think of Amouranth on Twitch.


ASMR Examples.

I will feature three different videos here. Because I know of only two individuals who specialize in ASMR, I figured I'd feature both of them in this one section from the previous section. So allow me to introduce to you TingTing and Amouranth as they provide ASMR for you. The two videos for Tingting and Amouranth will mostly be random.

But first, let me share the advertisement during Super Bowl LIII. Take a look:

^ The Pure Experience | Michelob ULTRA Pure Gold Super Bowl 2019

Up now is an example of an ASMR session from the beautiful Tingting. Subscribe to her channel if you enjoy her work:

^ [ASMR] Curing your Headache before Sleep

This is Amouranth from Twitch. Amouranth usually live streams ASMR on Twitch. You may subscribe to Amouranth on YouTube and follow her on Twitch if you enjoy her work. Here is an example of her ASMR work on YouTube for you to enjoy:

^ ASMR Triggers ? Tapping, Scratching, Brushing, & MORE

And finally, a local news team here in Houston tried their hand at ASMR. The result? See for yourself:

^ Houston's Morning Show tries ASMR (FOX 26 Houston)

Now you have an idea of what ASMR is about through these examples.


Can ASMR Be Helpful?

The benefits of ASMR are understandable. I personally am not into this kind of thing, but MANY people worldwide are drawn to the appeal of ASMR. There is a certain art and science of the use of certain sounds to provide theraputic and relaxing values.




ASMR: Final Thoughts


I am someone who does not take part in various Internet trends or social phenomena. One of those, being ASMR. For those who are into ASMR, though, I am not one to tell people how to live or what decisions to make. I will say that at least ASMR is something positive and something useful. I am just not as crazy about or as involved with ASMR as most social media types are.


Other Resources/Reading.

The best resource I can provide regarding ASMR is the one below. Feel free to learn more about ASMR from a much more qualified source than I. Also find some of the latest video material on ASMR from YouTube and Twitch:

Autonomous sensory meridian response (Wikipedia)
ASMR YouTube search (find YouTube material on ASMR)
ASMR Twitch search (find Twitch material on ASMR)

Maybe with some added interest, I could find some more resources for you all to enjoy if I decide to post edits and updates to this blog post. I try to be as educated as much as possible to provide professional posts. However, I am sure there are things I have screwed up, so I am hopeful my more educated audience can assist me so that I provide the best possible material with little or no backlash.





This blog post has now concluded. Care to discuss? Here is my discussion to you:

What do you think about ASMR? Can it benefit people; and if so, in what ways?

This topic was a bit unique apart from my usual discussion of life issues. I just wanted to take a special look at ASMR just to bring it to light. I hope you appreciate my efforts. Meanwhile, thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Monday, January 21, 2019

Music Your Life Can Relate To

John B. Marine | January 21, 2019 | | | Be the first to comment!
Music sometimes is something you can relate to. From love to breakups to motivation, music can define our lives and put everyday emotions into song. Music isn't just music to people- they can provide life snapshots. Especially those who provide amazing and real music can define even the best and worst life moments into song. So can you relate to life with music? Absolutely!

This is a different kind of post in the realm of life issues and relating to life. I hope you enjoy it!






Music Your Life Can Relate To


If you listen to a lot of music, you know there are all kinds of songs about all kinds of things. Or at least, those that have lyrics to them. Any song that can offer any kind of connection to your life is a song you can certainly appreciate. Same applies to music that provides a snapshot of the world we live in at present. Sometimes if offered, music can provide advice to help people deal with any number of issues. Nasty as it sounds, even raunchy songs of things like aggressive sex or intense drug and alcohol usage are things in music we can relate to.


My Personal Music Connection.

There is one song I've loved and believed in its meaning. Here it is:


^ Stevie Wonder I Just Called To Say I Love You

This is "I Just Called to Say I Love You" by Stevie Wonder. I must say that I believe in this song for two reasons. One reason is because I don't believe in having any specific occasion or reason to express love or respect. Like, I don't believe in Mother's Day, Father's Day, or Valentine's Day. Why one day out of the year to share love for someone? The other reason why I love this song is because I sometimes often simply say hello to people on social media whom I haven't talked to in a while or anything. Most people assume I say hello because I have some awful secret to share or something. I really wish people stop thinking I'm trying to un-friend them because I say something like, "I am pleased to be your friend!"

Either way, this is a song I strongly relate to and is a reflection of one part of my personality.


Can You Relate to Music?

A lot of people have wrote songs based on actual experiences in their lives. Some others demonstrate extreme cases and wild stores. A lot of music can consist of moments you can actually relate to. Such songs can be great because you actually feel connected to music instead of just listening to something that sounds good. Some other songs just sound a certain way that offer a certain tone that can you can relate to in life.


What to Take Away From This Post.

Something you can learn is that it is very okay to be drawn to music and the messages provided in songs. That is why a lot of songs from the 1990s and such are so revered and loved. Most people will argue that music today mostly is... just music. Just going for money. No character or personality to the music. And usually, the ones who do sing from the heart and write songs from the heart aren't as received as lot or mainstream music types. So keep listening to and enjoying music!





I hope you found this blog post interesting. Here is a discussion question for you in case you want to make this post active and lively:

What song(s) can you relate to? How do those songs relate to moments in your life or someone else's?

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Friday, January 18, 2019

You Are Loved

John B. Marine | January 18, 2019 | | | | Be the first to comment!
I recently celebrated my birthday on January 15 of this year, and this gave me some time to reflect. While I am pleased to celebrate another year of existence, I am more pleased gaining so many birthday wishes from others across social media. A time like a birthday, an anniversary, or even death in family and/or friends can make you wonder if people really do care about you. A fallacy of social media is that you seem to not like people as much if they don't immediately respond to you in the event of anything mentioned here. Fact is, not everyone uses social media religiously. So if you fall into this situation, think otherwise.

Through Facebook, I received over 70 posts to my timeline on my birthday. I usually have averaged 50-70 posts when it was my birthday. I even got a handful of birthday wishes through Twitter and Instagram. People didn't have to wish me a happy birthday or care that I have a birthday, but they offered their birthday wishes to me out of the goodness of others' hearts. They realize something like a birthday is a joyous and happy occasion. It means you have lasted long enough and have enjoyed being able to live and make yourself worthy to others. I was so pleased people worldwide took time out of their day to wish me a happy birthday. They were not required to, but they did.

Then there was a time when I discussed being away from online in 2017 when I was hospitalized for surgery for an infection. I was pleasantly surprised at the outpouring of support from others. Even people who didn't normally see my posts or comment on Facebook were offering their support. I have meant something to people so much that my presence is significant. If I passed away, it would feel like a huge void and huge hole would be in our world in replacing me.

Usually, I am told not to share some of my best and worst time since the only person who cares about these things is myself. However, there is a reason why I post things about my life. The big reason is to release my problems instead of bottle them in. Also, I am hoping my issues and advice can help others who may be in a similar situation.


What to Take Away From This Post.

If you have made a difference in others' lives and if you have meant some sort of importance in others' lives, you will gain the love and respect from other people. People love you even if you don't love yourself. You may need to find new people to befriend you if you feel the ones you are with don't trust or love you enough. Also, you don't ask for people to get into your life, but you appreciate that the ones who are in your life offer you their love and support. People who are sincere and honest will be the ones who offer their loving adoration and support even if they don't know you personally. It is always nice to know people care about you and worry about you.

I create stories like these and provide insight like this to help people feel better about themselves and others. I feel if we do not like ourselves much or feel loved by others, we don't love ourselves much. This leads to lower self-esteem, self-destruction, and at the worst- suicide (or at least suicidal thoughts). So we need to remind ourselves and recognize there are good people in this world and that there are people who do care about us. Even those who care even one iota about you are people you can appreciate and admire. We need things in our lives to remind us that people do care and that life can be enjoyable. Having people who care is one way to prove that point.

Most of all... I am posting this to say that you don't ask for people to offer you their kindness. However, in light of certain situations, it is always nice to know people care, even if remotely. So be thankful for the ones who stick with you and love you. People come and go, but love never dies or fails.


Long story short...

You are loved, and people DO care.





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Wednesday, January 16, 2019

Couples Counseling With Therapists Online

John B. Marine | January 16, 2019 | | | Be the first to comment!
(UPDATED: January 21, 2019)

A couple with a damaged relationship can benefit from help from a therapist. If a couple can not afford to meet a therapist in person, though, there is the option of online couples counseling therapy. The help you need as a couple can be procured by getting with a therapist online, even if you can not access a therapist in a physical location. I am here to discuss online therapy for couples with this blog post. Stay with me here so I can offer you my advice and insight.


Before I Begin...

(1) I am no expert on relationship matters. So do not think I have experience in dealing with such matters.

(2) This blog post was created in partnership with BetterHelp as well as ReGain. To learn more about BetterHelp and the services they provide, please visit www.betterhelp.com. For more information about ReGain, visit regain.us.


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Couples Counseling With Therapists Online


online couples counseling therapy
^ from: dr-jim.com - Therapy for couples can be had online and can be as effective as being with a proper therapist in a physical office.

To get the needed relationship help from a professional, you will need to travel to meet with that professional. There may be a chance you will not be able to pay for the expenses and such to go to a physical office to get needed help. So the next best thing in today's technologically-advanced world is to engage in online counseling. Why not? You probably use cyberspace to dabble in Internet memes or look up ridiculous videos of ridiculous behavior. If you have legitimate problems and really can use the assistance of a therapist, why not use cyberspace for something useful for a change?

In the case of couples who are having issues, it is just as beneficial to meet with a therapist through online sessions as it is to have various sessions with a real therapist in his/her office. It is great to know you can still get the same help and advice from a therapist even if you literally miles away or are unable to get the needed assistance from a physical therapist in a physical office. Even couples who need therapy can know online therapy can be just as helpful as regular therapy from a therapist in his/her office.


Making the Case for Online Couples Therapy.

As much as we use technology and electronics for all sorts of tasks, we can also use some of the same technology for more practical matters. Not being able to access a therapist nearby in a physical office means you can still get quality help from a therapist online. Just because you can not meet with a therapist in a physical location and in person doesn't mean you will not be able to get quality help from that therapist. You can also use online therapy to have sessions with a therapist without needing to go into that office. The convenience can be worthwhile and comfortable. You are also paying a considerable amount to get professional assistance regardless. And in the case of couples, you won't need to leave behind the comforts of home to get the assistance from a therapist that you need.


Final thoughts in regards to couples counseling online are coming up, so go to the next section.




Couples Counseling With Therapists Online


If you are in a relationship and need counseling, you can work with a therapist online in a few online sessions to get the therapy you need. Just because you can't get help from a therapist in a physical location doesn't mean you still can get the needed help and therapy from a therapist online. Sessions with a therapist online is just as effective as sessions with a therapist in his/her office. You are better off getting help with your relationship rather than try to patch up issues yourself. At least, it wouldn't hurt to consult a therapist online to aid you in repairing a damaged relationship.

I am going to be fairly honest here. As much as people today like using electronics and technology for Internet memes or all kinds of videos, why not the same technology to help trying to better our lives or even gain needed therapy for our issues? Why not use cyberspace for more practical matters? Set up something with a therapist online to help you with any sort of matters- let alone couples counseling. You are still getting the same quality help that a therapist can provide. The only difference is that you are not in that therapist's office getting the needed help. What do you have to lose in trying to repair a relationship by working with a therapist online? Use every available resource to you to get the help you need- even including online therapy!


Resources.

If your relationships is damaged or close to damaged beyond repair, and if you want to keep the relationship going; you can help yourself greatly by meeting with a therapist for couples counseling. Even online therapy can be just as effective as getting help. To help you get started, here is a resource I've provided for you in helping you with getting couples counseling therapy online from a therapist online:

online marriage counseling/online couples counseling


Special Thanks.

I want to thank ReGain and BetterHelp for reaching out to me and offering these topics for me to discuss. I've done all I can to try to express the subject matter the best way I can.





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Premarital Counseling and Therapy

John B. Marine | January 16, 2019 | | | Be the first to comment!
(UPDATED: January 21, 2019)

Before getting married, you may want some counseling. Yes- it is great for you to marry someone you truly love. However, are you prepared for all the costs and issues in getting married and in staying together? For most couples, they don't care about these things. Most couples just want to be together and be intimate with each other and grow old with each other. Just like anything, though, you have to weigh various factors to be together and stay together. I will try to shed light on the issue of premarital counseling with this blog post. Maybe this will help you or somebody else who may be involved in this matter.


Before I Begin...

(1) I am no expert on relationship matters. So do not think I have experience in dealing with such matters.

(2) This blog post was created in partnership with BetterHelp as well as ReGain. To learn more about BetterHelp and the services they provide, please visit www.betterhelp.com. For more information about ReGain, visit regain.us.


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JAN 21 2019 - edited anchor text in Resources






Premarital Counseling and Therapy


premarital counseling or pre-marital counseling
^ from: (YouTube) - Marriage involves more than just saying, "I Do." Premarital counseling can help ensure you are fully ready for marriage and life as a married couple.

Before tying the knot (or whatever expression means "getting married" to you), it is best you get some premarital counseling. Marriage, like parenthood, is a life-long process that shouldn't be taken lightly or should be lightly regarded. You may potentially be with your future significant other for the rest of your life. So you do not want to take something like marriage less serious than what it really is and what it really means.

Getting married means more than romantic involvement. You have to weigh in factors regarding other family members, financing being together, and things of that nature. Having a healthy love for one another is always a good thing. However, to avoid a messy marital future, you will need to plan ahead for all of the factors that may test your marital bond. Think of premarital counseling as like having a party planner for a party. In this analogy, having a party planner ensures you can put together the dream party that you want to throw by handling the visual details and the financial details. Premarital counseling helps ensure you will be properly prepared for marriage.

Additionally, premarital counseling can be helpful if you are engaged but having certain issues with your fiancé/fiancée. There is a possibility you may want to call off the marriage if you suspect your fiancé/fiancée is cheating or if your relationship may potentially be damaged beyond repair. You certainly can do no wrong if you meet with a therapist for premarital counseling and if you still want to marry your engaged partner.

There are plenty of reasons to consider premarital counseling. Marriage is too complex and deep to be taken so lightly and disregard all possible aspects of marriage. It helps to have a professional help prepare you for marriage rather than think you know everything and end up not having as happy a marriage as you can have.


Do You NEED Premarital Counseling?

Well... it wouldn't hurt. Getting premarital counseling is more like getting a briefing before engaging in some mission. Do you go into a battle or a war by not getting the specifics of any given situation? If you do not get a general idea of what you are getting yourself into, you are bound to fail, unless you somehow know everything beforehand. Make sure you are prepared for life as a married individual. In that case, you would be best served to have premarital counseling. At least give it a chance so you can make all or most of the primary concerns a bit easier to manage. Better safe than sorry.


Premarital Counseling Therapy.

Having premarital counseling will help you to make smart decisions and be better prepared for marriage. A healthy marriage involves more than just having a loving bond with someone. Think about all the different things that being married may involve. For example:

• Where will you live?
• Are you physically and financially able to have children?
• Who legally owns any number of things?

Having as much professional insight and advice in premarital matters can mean a lot to having a successful and healthy marriage. So make sure to take advantage of having premarital counseling for the best experience of marriage.


Get ready for some final thoughts of mine about premarital counseling.




Premarital Counseling and Therapy: Final Thoughts


Premarital counseling helps soon-to-be-married couples start strong and limits early troubles in young married relationships. You are not a failure because you don't know (or think you know) all there is to being married outside of having healthy love for one another. A therapist who helps in premarital counseling will help you either get ready in all aspects for being married, or a therapist can help save engaged partners who may be having a damaged relationship before getting married or may have a wedding be canceled. Having professional help prior to marriage (or if you go ahead with the marriage) can help make marriage wonderful. It has been a worthy investment for you to engage in marriage; why not also make an investment to ensure your marriage will be successful? Even if you think you are ready to be married and know all the nuances of getting and being married, it is recommended you check with a therapist for premarital counseling just to make sure you will have a happy and enjoyable marriage.


Resources.

As I mentioned in the previous paragraph, marriage is a great investment. So equally, why not make an investment to ensure a happy and productive marriage? It costs money to get with and set up appointments with therapists. While there is a significant price on meeting with a therapist, there are other great costs to consider. To make the best best decisions on choosing a therapist to meet with in regards to premarital counseling, I have prepared the following resource for you which explains all I have explained in this blog post and then some other issues:

premarital counseling

Congratulations if you are going to get married soon! Hopefully this post will help you towards good decisions and solutions for having a happy and healthy marriage.


Special Thanks.

I want to thank ReGain and BetterHelp for helping me to blog about this topic and offer more services to more individuals.





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Couples Counseling and Therapy

John B. Marine | January 16, 2019 | | | Be the first to comment!
(UPDATED: January 21, 2019)

Love shouldn't have to hurt. No matter how connected you are (or think you are) to your lover, problems will arise as well as anger. You may elect to settle matters on your own. If that fails, you may require counseling. You may stand a better chance of getting yourself the needed help by gaining therapy from a healthcare provider or professional rather than try to work out relationship matters on your own. If you fall into this situation, I can help you out!


Before I Begin...

(1) I am no expert on relationship matters. So do not think I have experience in dealing with such matters.

(2) This blog post was created in partnership with BetterHelp as well as ReGain. To learn more about BetterHelp and the services they provide, please visit www.betterhelp.com. For more information about ReGain, visit regain.us.


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Couples Counseling and Therapy


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^ from: www.sheknows.com - In relationships that are in trouble, couples counseling can help repair damaged relationships.

Love can be the sweetest and most pleasureful thing in our lives. However, it can also be the most damaging and easily misconstrued concept when love all goes wrong. All loving relationships ranging from casual love to marriage will suffer some sort of snag or snags. One can not just trust that everything will be okay in the end. You may need counseling to help save any relationship that may be on the rocks (and I'm not talking margaritas!). Everything from constant disagreements to serious matters (such as domestic violence) are fair game to discuss with a therapist.

It doesn't matter if you are starting out as a couple or if you have been together for a long time. It also doesn't matter if you are in a straight relationship or any kind of same-sex relationship. All relationships will have their rocky moments. When we need to find ways to defeat our relationship demons, either trying to work things out on our own or through the help of qualified professionals will help do the trick.


Why Consider Couples Counseling?

Face it- you can not repair everything yourself. Read all of the blog posts (including this one) and all of the online videos all you want- you are only going to go so far to get any needed advice. Couples who want to stay together can try to stay together by consulting a therapist.


Do You NEED Couples Counseling?

If you can sort out your issues together, then couples counseling is not needed. However, it is nice to know a professional can help you get over any sort of relationship issues you may be having. Saving a damaged relationship among couples likely wouldn't hurt any further should you seek the assistance of a professional to help you with your love life. It will not entirely hurt to pay some money to have a professional help you with your relationship issues. Just like almost anything in life, you take advantage of almost any resource available to you- even including seeking couples counseling.


Therapy for Couples.

Couples in damaged relationships will need therapy to try to heal and repair damage in their lives. As someone who watches a lot of daytime talk shows, it can take a considerable amount of time to mend troubled relationships. Working with a therapist in couples counseling will allow you find ways to make the recovery faster and easier to return to making your love life strong again. Or in the case of decent relationships, therapy can make love lives stronger than ever.


Now for some final thoughts on this matter.




Couples Counseling and Therapy: Final Thoughts


Love is never always perfect, and even the best of relationships will be tested. If a relationship is damaged or is heading towards potential doom, counseling can play a huge role in saving relationships- as long as couples are willing to stay together. Seeking couples counseling can go a long way towards salvaging torn relationships. It may take time and money to have to resort to couples counseling, but it is ultimately worth it if you want to repair any damaged relationship through the means of couples counseling. If you want to keep a relationship going or if you want to salvage an already damaged relationship, the best you can do is seek help from a therapist or a counselor. It is worth it to have some professional help to heal damaged relationships, even if you feel you can repair such relationships on your own without professional help.


Resources.

When seeking couples counseling, one such thing to consider is the cost of everything- both financially and emotionally. A lot is riding on the line relationship-wise when dealing with various relationship issues. Any couple that wants to stay together will need to consider the different costs involved to try to stay together and perhaps strengthen or salvage any damaged relationship. If financial matters concern you in regards to couples counseling, here is a resource that will help you in the financial aspect of couples counseling:

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This resource should help in the financial aspects of couples counseling.


Special Thanks.

I would like to thank BetterHelp and ReGain for reaching out to me in helping me to create this blog post. I hope, like for all of my posts on "John's Life Space," that this helps all of you with your problems.





This will conclude my blog post about couples counseling. To those of you who may have troubled or potentially troubled relationships, I hope my advice and insight can help you towards rebuilding your loving bond. This blog is about helping people who may be facing certain issues and also in trying to provide positive insight to help look at life in a better light. I hope my efforts have paid off again. Be sure to follow my work in any capacity if you enjoy my work. Ways to connect can be found in the items and links below. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Friday, January 11, 2019

Life Advice From Bloggers

John B. Marine | January 11, 2019 | | | | | Be the first to comment!
As a blogger, I have seen many posts from fellow bloggers. This post focuses on some bloggers who offer life advice. It is a roundup of certain advice from bloggers. Not all featured personalities here blog about life. In fact, all or most are fashion bloggers. Most of all...

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Life Advice From Bloggers


To share with you a number of bloggers offering life advice, I decided to come up with this blog post. It is always great to gain life insight from others to help you on your way. So what I did was offer a variety of life issues and insight on helping you feel better if experiencing some of these situations. Here is where you can get life issue insight from people other than myself. Even including bloggers other than myself.

I invite you to Follow/Subscribe to the blogs in the next section if you enjoy their work.


Random Life Advice from Bloggers.

Consider this blog post more like random life advice from random bloggers I follow. Think of it like a buffet restaurant of life advice, and all are ready for you to digest and enjoy. The posts will feature a preview of what certain posts are about. A lot of these posts have some depressing and personal elements. However, I am featuring them because advice is offered to help others who may be in the same situation. If maybe you can use the advice, feel free to visit the posts that I mention here. Some bloggers may be featured more than once.


"The Gratitude in Loss" (Adventures Uncensored) « being thankful for the lives of others prior to their passing.

"Grief as a Phoenix" (Adventures Uncensored) « dealing with miscarriages.

"How to Stay Motivated When You Feel Like a Failure" (Sensible Stylista) « when down on your luck, the advice offered here is to help keep you on track.

"Delayed Gratification: Hartford Marathon 2017" (imperfect idealist) « facing doubt in her life, she finds courage and strength through running.

"New Year, New Beginnings" (Style Cassentials) « a blogger looks back on a previous year and looks ahead to a new one.

"Things I'm Struggling With and Random Thoughts" (Stylish Petite) « a hodge podge of various life issues the blogger faces.

"10 Things I Wish I Would Have Known Before Becoming a Mom" (Stylish Petite) « advice on what to experience when becoming a mother.

"How I Got Past my PAST" (Mumu and Macaroons) « insight on past life and love issues she faced and how she overcame them.

"how to get out of a FUNK" (Lonestar Southern) « experiencing some slow times in her life, she offers advice on how to get out of a funk. Includes a video.

"How I Cope With Anxiety and Stress" (Raindrops of Sapphire) « advice on dealing with anxiety and stress.

"30 Inspirational Quotes About Being Different" (Glam Fab Happy) « a collection of quotes regarding being different and unique.

"21 Inspirational Quotes About Self-Love" (Glam Fab Happy) « a collection of motivational quotes about self-love.

"Things to Remember When Everything Goes Wrong" (Chamber of Beauty) « advice for when everything seems to go wrong for you.

"Life After Loss Keeping My Family Together" () « dealing with the loss of her husband, this is one of her many posts of hers offering insight into her life. This one involving keeping her family together.

"Being the Best of Me || Develop New Habits to Create a Better Life" (Color and Grace) « the blogger provides examples of new habits to adopt to live a better life.


These are among a number of different advice offerings to help you out. And to be honest, I wanted to offer advice from other bloggers for a long time- even in my main "John's Blog Space" blog. But I decided here to focus entirely on advice for all of you from different bloggers. So I hope you enjoyed this post.





Life is tough. While I can't make lives better for others, I at least will try to contribute to the solution rather than add to the problem. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Sunday, December 30, 2018

Whatever Works

John B. Marine | December 30, 2018 | | | Be the first to comment!
I operate five blogs. I have produced music. I am an eBook author. I developed material that can be used for games. I have no traditional 9-to-5 job. I don't really consider myself to be outgoing, though I often consider some places as being great to want to one day visit. Though times are slow, I am fairly content making some kind of living. Could I do more? Of course. However, where I am at now is still better than letting my life pass me by and having no means to contribute to myself or society. Whatever works, is what I say. Even if certain career and hobby options don't result in making ourselves wholesome and financially stable, we do whatever we can work best with. At least something occupies our minds and keeps us from dying of laziness and any lack of motivation. Some people may not like some of our methods of trying to make ends meet and how we try to make ends meet, but they somehow work. I will use this time to discuss trying to make whatever we get our minds into work.


Before I Begin...

This blog post may contain some material that may not be suitable for all audiences. You are reading this blog post and its content at your own discretion.


ABOUT THE LABEL: "Financial Health"

Even though money is not essential to our survival, they do have some impacts that allow us to have as best a life as possible. So any topic with this label discusses money and its parallel to living. For proper economic discussion, you are better served reading proper economic material rather than this life issues blog.






Whatever Works...


I remember one time I came across a fashion blogger who started her blog as a means of relaxing the pain from suffering a miscarriage. There is a Twitch streamer I came across from a disabled young woman who produces jewelry and even offered tarot card readings. Not everyone has a *traditional* job. Not too many others have something they enjoy doing that benefits society in some sort of way. If a lot of us had proper jobs and the proper training to land such jobs, then it wouldn't be an issue of trying to do something we are entirely proud of.

Here are some talking points in regards to finding whatever works for you towards contributing to society and making a living...


Whatever Works: Against the Norm.

Graduate from High School (or at least get your GED if you drop out of grade school). Go to college/university and graduate from college/university. Get yourself a good-paying job that you will enjoy. Get married. Have children. There is nothing wrong with any of these things to help better your life. The thing is, everyone has different paths taken through life. So you are somehow not as liked if you do not follow the same sort of path most other people follow.

If you involve yourself in a hobby or profession you are not happy with, you end up not being as happy or as content with yourself. Not everyone may have the qualities to perform tasks like being a lawyer, repair vehicles, work in construction, or anything like that. Some people simply do what they feel they are most qualified in and feel they can best contribute to. Having such activities to take part in helps us to be more productive and wake up each day feeling ready to change the world in a positive way. Even if you have a non-traditional occupation that still results in making decent profit and revenue, at least you are happy with making some kind of living instead of letting life pass you by doing nothing (or very little). So you are basically performing whatever works for you and your lifestyle. You don't have to fill any traditional void set forth by society if you don't want to. You can simply make your own living and profit (personally and financially) from your work. It's all about whatever works. If you can not find anything that will work for you in making a living, you will eventually find something you are good at or enjoy doing that will ultimately lead to you making a decent living.


Whatever Works: Even Unwholesome or Legal Acts.

People will do whatever it takes to make ends meet- even including unwholesome activities. People gamble, sell drugs, have wild sex, pimp, prostitute, escort, perform stripping, engage in any aspect of the sex industry, steal from people, vandalize property, and more. People who grow up in or involve themselves in rough neighborhoods or seedy underworlds try to make their own living. Taking on these dangerous (and often illegal) acts can be enough to provide financial backing for some people.

There is a difference between not doing enough and simply being lazy. I get to be slow with blog posts and online content, but I am at least contributing to society with my work. Could I do a lot more? Sure. However, since my current line of work goes only so far, I don't get to reap as many benefits unless I somehow have an absolute surge that results in life-changing financial success. I still can manifest a modicum of success and happiness with my work. Simply being lazy means I do absolutely nothing for anybody for any kind of stability- even including not doing my online work producing. Even slow times and little profit are a product of performing a job or a hobby. It just means times are slow; it does not mean someone could probably benefit from doing something better. Slow times surely relates to my blog, as I used to get five-figure views a month. Now, I am mostly fortunate for whatever monthly view counts I get. I still never given up on my work because I still feel my presence and insight are still remotely important. I also still enjoy what I do despite slow times.


Whatever Works: My Own Insight.

I chose blogging and YouTube after I got my Associates in the Arts in 2008. I made this choice despite having concentration in Broadcasting and Journalism. When my dreams of Computer Animation as well as Graphic Design failed, I aspired to be a sports anchor or even a sports announcer. I later sort of changed my mindset when I remember how much my mother and my stepfather often question why certain news casts discuss certain topics or make too much a big deal about something. On top of that, I felt natural typing up stuff and even wanted to try making videos. So in November 2008, I started "JohnMarineTube," my YouTube channel. I had never made any kind of video of any kind online until I started playing around with Windows Movie Maker and my webcam. My Blogger/Blogspot profile says I joined in May 2007, but I never made a proper blog post with the service until January 2009 on "John's Blog Space." Even then, my blogging history goes back to the blog I maintained in my Myspace profile. Only that I did not decide to make my main blog about "anything and everything" until I decided to get more serious about blogging on Blogger/Blogspot. Anyone who may know my story knows that I actually admitted in my Myspace blog that I considered blogging for money.


Something I Realize...

Yes- I realize I am a stay-at-home person. Since I may seem like I am rotting rather than getting out the house constantly and doing things, that I somehow do not feel like a person actually making something of himself/herself. Or maybe I am seen as someone who isn't content on finding love or wanting to remain single. The mindset, though, is that I am somehow not doing enough to make a decent living or contribute much to society with my online content. If I could find something else I am good at or enjoy to try to contribute further while making my own living, I would take advantage of those opportunities to boost my appeal all the further.

There is a difference between not doing enough and simply being lazy. I get to be slow with blog posts and online content, but I am at least contributing to society with my work. Could I do a lot more? Sure. However, since my current line of work goes only so far, I don't get to reap as many benefits unless I somehow have an absolute surge that results in life-changing financial success. I still can manifest a modicum of success and happiness with my work. Simply being lazy means I do absolutely nothing for anybody for any kind of stability- even including not doing my online work producing. Even slow times and little profit are a product of performing a job or a hobby. It just means times are slow; it does not mean someone could probably benefit from doing something better. Slow times surely relates to my blog, as I used to get five-figure views a month. Now, I am mostly fortunate for whatever monthly view counts I get. I still never given up on my work because I still feel my presence and insight are still remotely important. I also still enjoy what I do despite slow times.

I am very aware there may be a time where I will have to face certain situations of things I have not done before- such as paying bills. Or even having a traditional job (including moments like possibly getting laid off or having to work longer at a place). As with anything in life, it is a constant work-in-progress. Few things can prepare you for the many curve balls life will try to pitch you. You probably were not formally trained to deal with pregnancy from a health standpoint and a financial standpoint if you are a parent (for example). Whenever I try to provide advice or help for certain issues, I am not a complete expert. I am not someone just randomly throwing out random advice, either. We are all just trying to make the most of what we have. What we do not know how to handle is something we either have to learn on the fly or try to learn what to do based on others' experiences.


Again- Whatever Works.

I could always get a traditional 9-to-5 job getting out of the house and doing something to support myself and my family. If I had more skill or did something I would actually enjoy, I would probably feel better about myself. Enjoyment of a hobby or job involves doing something you actually enjoy and find challenge in. I certainly have found challenge in the online content I produce. I do hate that I feel I am disappointing myself and others by not being more assertive and taking on something better, but this is all I have and what I feel happiest with. Why try to throw in something to ruin the flow or get you to do something you aren't happy with or feel content with? Everyone should be able to do whatever makes them feel happy and what can count towards making some sort of sustainable living.

Any of my blogging work or other works, I feel I am doing this for the betterment of my readers and visitors. I do not blog about things just to get my name across or to harm anyone or anything. I surely do not use "John's Life Space" to throw around certain life issues and have no real vision of trying to help anyone. I actually try to research certain topics so that I don't mention something foolish that ends up no real purpose but to flood the Internet with useless material.




Whatever Works: Final Thoughts


No matter what your favorite hobby or profession of choice, you are doing what you can because you are trying to do whatever works to try to make a decent living and contribute to society. Some of what we do to make ends meet may not be ethical or wholesome, but if it means being financially stable, we certainly will do whatever works even if it kills us. The most important thing to remember is doing something you feel happy doing and that you can contribute to. Things like being a musician or designing clothing (for example) are things that should bring you happiness if you enjoy what you do. Maintaining a living and making yourself a better person are the main goals to any such endeavor you take on. There will be those tough times and slow times, but you still try to find ways to work around them and make the most of what life throws at you. If you do not have something that works for you in maintaining yourself personally and financially, be sure to find whatever works best for you. That is even if you need to get more training for something or seek certain opportunities. You do not need to have any traditional job or even follow any traditional social norms as long as you find some of occupation that you can enjoy and profit from.

When it comes to making a living both in general and financially- whatever works. Whatever works towards keeping you happy and content. Whatever works towards maintaining a living financially and with others. Whatever works towards contributing to society rather than doing absolutely nothing and not making yourself a better person. No matter what it takes just remember two words from this blog post- WHATEVER WORKS.





I hope you can put the content in this blog post to good use. At least you know I put my effort and heart into this because the end game is to try to offer help, hope, and advice to those who may need it (or at least wouldn't mind it). That is what I try to do in my "John's Life Space" posts. I feel taking moments from life to educate others is key to try to make life better for others. If you appreciate my efforts across all of my blogs, make sure to Subscribe/Follow in some sort of capacity. By the way...

How do you feel about the "whatever works" approach to living life and being financially stable?

Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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