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Monday, April 13, 2020

Introverts and Extroverts

John B. Marine | April 13, 2020 | | | | Be the first to comment!
I never understood the difference between introverts and extroverts. Upon recent events in my life, I began to evaluate the two sides. This blog post is a discussion about being introverted and extroverted respectfully. I want to share with you the difference between the two as I know them to be. Perhaps you can determine whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, and also to find out which you consider yourself as. So allow me to welcome you to another "John's Life Space" blog post.






Introverts and Extroverts


Please remember- I am NOT an expert at this topic. I am only commenting based on what I know about this topic.

Whether or not someone is an introvert or an extrovert depends on how someone interacts with the world around them. An introvert is usually more reserved and private, and an extrovert usually is more alive and outgoing. How people handle certain aspects of life and certain situations can determine the difference of being either an introvert or an extrovert. As if you can't tell by the prefixes of "introvert" and "extrovert," you will note what the word means based on the "in-" and "ex-" prefixes. To understand these concepts further, we must look to the root words- introversion and extroversion. Here are some *official* definitions of each word:

Introversion Definition:
"(noun): the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life"

-(Merriam-Webster Dictionary)

Extroversion Definition:
"(noun): the act, state, or habit of being predominantly concerned with and obtaining gratification from what is outside the self"

-(Merriam-Webster Dictionary)

So when you consider these two definitions, you can get a general understanding of what it means to be either an introvert or an extrovert. Not every introvert/extrovert is the same or 100% complete the general definition of either. It is much the same way that no two people exactly fit any sort of social category. It is much the same way how you have males who wear pink or females who take part in activities like contact sports or construction work.




Analyzing Introverts and Extroverts


This section features the finer details of being an introvert and an extrovert. Consider the following...


Are You an Introvert or Extrovert?

Let me try to explain the two sides as best as I can. First off, the introverts.

An introvert usually is seen as being reserved and not as outgoing. An introvert usually does not try to be boastful and always wanting to be out and about. Introverts even want to be alone to recharge themselves and to recover. They usually do not share their issues with others. Instead, these are people who act independently and prefer privacy over most things. A misconception about introverts is that they are rude and anti-social. Introverts are more self-reliant when dealing with certain issues.

An extrovert usually looks to others and is mostly outgoing. Such types are expressive and do not mind being among large crowds. They are more of team players than their introvert counterparts. They draw their energy from other people rather than rely on only a few certain individuals. They also tend to be the center of attention more than introverts. These are more the types that try to outsource things.


Ambiverts.

Maybe one is neither entirely an introvert nor an extrovert. So welcome the middle ground- the ambivert. An ambivert combines qualities of both introverts and extroverts but without being exclusive to either. Some may prefer to work alone but also am more open to working with other people and getting into social crowds. Once you realize what both introverts and extroverts are, you may realize you have qualities of both without having all of the qualities of either an introvert or an extrovert. In that case, consider yourself an ambivert!


Do I Identify as an Introvert or an Extrovert?

Personally, I tend to fit the bill as an introvert. A lot of what I do is independent. I also tend to want to be reserved and private for when experiencing tough times and need to recharge on my own. Though I am reserved, I used to look to guidance from others to try to get myself together when I am down. I also tend to be a deep thinker... often times over-thinking things. As much as I talk about certain places in the world I love and certain events I want to be a part of, I am actually not an outgoing person. I consider myself below average in trying to work in teams. I consider teamwork as one of my biggest weaknesses. So therefore, based on my research of introverts and extroverts, I seem best classified as an introvert.


Is It Good or Bad Being Either an Introvert or an Extrovert?

Being an introvert or an extrovert is only a bad thing if you consider one or the other to be a negative. Being an introvert or an extrovert just means you have different needs and strategies that have to be addressed properly to complete tasks. Even teams have to try to work together when you have both introverts and extroverts working on the same team trying to complete the same task or multiple tasks. So do not feel bad if you feel you are either an introvert or an extrovert. People are not going to require you to be either an introvert or extrovert. Likewise, people are not going to require you to convert to either an extrovert or introvert. Just work to your skills and personality. That is more important than anything else.


Video Insight.

I chose this video as a video example of distinguishing between introverts and extroverts:


^ Introverts vs Extroverts

Now let's talk care for both types.




Caring For Introverts and Extroverts


As introverts and extroverts have differing qualities, they also require different levels of care for when those are in need of support.


Introvert Care.

An introvert can be tough to negotiate with since they can be so reserved. An introvert may have certain issues and choose not to disclose their issues with others. Some introverts may try to self-treat their own issues rather than seek help. In a scary sense, some introverts may be so rebellious towards getting help that they may even engage in self-destruction or even suicide if they are unable to resolve their issues on their own. It is therefore helpful a person lets an introvert know he/she loves a certain introvert and wants the best for an introvert. It helps to be thoughtful and offer best wishes to an introvert dealing with any sort of issues.


Extrovert Care.

Extroverts often look to others for love and support rather than try to be independent. So therefore, being around others and gaining support from others is very beneficial to the extrovert. Extroverts whom may need help may have to be alone, just not for as long as introverts. Though extroverts tend to be more sociable, even extroverts suffer from social anxiety.


I wish I knew more about this topic to provide more accurate advice. Otherwise, that concludes this section. Maybe more complete advice could be offered in edits to this blog post. That said... let us end with some final thoughts, huh?




Introverts and Extroverts: Final Thoughts


Being an introvert or an extrovert is based entirely on how we tend to interact with the world as well as how we choose to take care of ourselves in completing tasks. I, at least, look at introverts and extroverts as different philosophies in accomplishing tasks, rather than praising one type and condeming the other. It is more important to understand your type to complete tasks rather than try to be an introvert or an extrovert. Naturally, many of us are the middle ground of introvert and extrovert. These are the ambiverts. As being an introvert or extrovert, you have different qualities and methods of handling work different from your counterparts. So be sure to address these concerns and try to find a way to work together to complete tasks. If you are trying to care for an introvert or an extrovert, it helps to have a general understanding of others' needs and traits. What may work to help an extrovert may not help an introvert. We all must do what we can to cater to and address the needs and wants of introverts and extroverts alike. Do not feel bad if you feel you have to be one or the other to be better accepted and to better accomplish tasks. Just do what you can and work to your own ability, and you'll do just fine.





This post is over. Thanks for dropping by! Let me ask you if you want to discuss this topic:

Do you consider yourself and introvert, an extrovert, or even an ambivert? Do you feel you need to be any of these to be successful in life and work?

Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Time to Move On

John B. Marine | April 13, 2020 | | | Be the first to comment!
We all meet people whom who love to be around. Moments both good and bad materialize from your connection with others. Some of those bad times may lead you into some slumping times. In those times, you feel you must move on. When do you feel that moving on is the best way to feel better? I will try to discuss this matter in this blog post.






Time to Move On


Being in the company of others makes you feel happy and welcomed. I have been part of many communities in person and in cyberspace. I have known many people of various nationalities, ethnicity, and religions. At times, I even tried to adjust my behavior to better fit in with others. As much as I try to be part of other peoples' lives, I sometimes realize I can not please everyone. I may also feel as if my own standards don't entirely meet others. So I end up feeling unwanted and unloved. This is the start of feeling as if you must move on to try to feel better.

There have been a number of things I've tried to disconnect myself from in trying to move on from places where I used to feel like I was still a part of certain communities. I recently Unfollowed a Twitch channel I used to feel like I was a part of. It was with a lot of thought that I decided any sort of novelty has worn off. Because of this, I felt the best thing I could do was simply no longer join or follow a certain Twitch channel. Long before this recent incident, I had uninstalled and stop using Discord. This came from certain personal issues as well as (you guessed it) being part of a community I thought I was cool with. I was reserved about it, but I felt like I didn't belong in one community I was eventually permanently banned from. I also didn't use Discord too much to actually say I missed using it. These were not moments I was proud of. With that said, however, I felt my inability to actively stay involved with communities has led me to want to move on from communities where I felt unloved and no longer wanted.

As Leona Lewis once sang, "...it's gonna hurt, but it heals to." One does not want to break himself/herself away from others, but if you don't feel like you belong to a community or someone's life anymore, the best thing you can do is to simply move on. Enjoy the good times you've shared but move on to try to better your life. Do I still feel hurt even when I decide to no longer involve myself with certain communities? Absolutely. At the same time, however, I don't like being around people to where I feel I have no impact or can not try to be a part of any community. In no way do I consider myself anti-social. What I do have a problem with is in feeling my standards aren't good enough to be part of people who [I thought] I felt cool with. If I no longer feel welcome in communities or with people who I thought I was cool with, I can take my business elsewhere and look for other people to be around. I also at times try not to forget good people (or whom I perceive as good people) when I move on from others. I do wish things could have gone much better; but if I feel I can do better, I can and will decide to take my personality elsewhere.

Sometimes, the decision to move on comes from evaluating how I've felt lately being with certain communities and with certain people. I would come in and praise certain Twitch streamers, but I would then feel like I am disregarded or disrespected. There may be other times where I have been treated fairly... except I feel I am not as welcomed or am part of a community that just makes me feel bitter inside. Those are times when I decide to exclude myself from a community I thought I was a good part of.


Who or What Do We Want to Move On From?

Almost anyone or any community is eligible for wanting to move on from. To some individuals, certain peers, office workers, even family members are the ones people want to move on from when things are going foul. Peers can be one of the most common types you want to try to distance yourself from if you feel you do not belong anymore with certain people. Family members can be tougher to want to move on from. After all, family is very personal. So literally anyone is fair game for wanting to move on from.


When Should You Move On From Others?

If you are part of a community or are around someone who you think you can no longer connect with, it is then time to move on. You are better served meeting and being with people who help extend good times and good vibes rather than feeling insignificant and replaceable. Unless you have done things you know you can improve on, you are better served being in environments where you are welcomed and treated respectfully. You will not be told when to leave someone or others- you must decide for yourself when to break off ties with other people and move on from them. Certain factors and conditions will present themselves for you to want to either isolate yourself from certain people or when to completely let people go.


What to Do After Moving On From Others.

Once you make the decision to break apart ties with certain people, then begins the healing process. The first few hours and days will be tough because you will be remembering what all you had when things were going well. You even remember when times were better for you and certain people. Those memories will still be within you, but you realize you need to move on and try to maybe find more people to associate yourself with.

If you can, you may even want to express WHY you decided to move on from other people, especially if the ones in question are attentive and understanding. Just respectfully tell someone why you chose to move on if it is possible certain individuals are attentive enough. This at least shows the heart you have and why you chose to do move on. Most of the time, people who no longer like you or you no longer like could not care about you leaving them behind. At least it is good to know there is respect for wanting to move on if you have a chance to express why you chose to want to move on from others.


I will make some final thoughts on this topic now.




Time to Move On: Final Thoughts


Being involved with specific people and specific communities help establish social connections and make you feel loved and respected. Though there are times where we feel we need to move on from such communities, especially when we feel disrespected and no longer welcomed. People in your live will come and go. You are not eternally tied to certain individuals. If you feel disrespected and want to move on from certain communities you once felt you were a fixture of, you will need to move on and try to find people you feel happier with. Nobody will tell you to move on. This is something that comes with personal thought and with proper evaluation. The initial sting after leaving someone or a community will be of remembering the times you had when things went well. What you need to do is realize you are not going to make the best decisions or do the best things. Some things just don't work out the way you want them to. Some people just don't fully understand your motives if you felt you done a community wrong. It is human nature.

Unless there are things you can change, just realize that as much as you can be a fixture of someone or a community, you are equally as much a possibility of being unwanted and unloved by that same person or that same community. So make sure to connect with people who make you happy and where you feel welcomed and respected. Leave behind those who you feel you can not connect with or no longer connect with. We all deserve to meet and love people who share like interests and feel happiest with. However, if there is a person or community ends up making you feel like you no longer want to associate yourself with someone, it is best to move on and get your life straight. Moving on from others can a classic case of "addition by subtraction." But again- it is up to you to decide when to move on from others based on evaluation and thought.





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