Special Occasions Ruined

There are some days you look forward to and prepare for- a birthday, an anniversary, some party, a special event, etc. Then for some reason, it is ruined. Some occasions are seen as once-in-a-lifetime occasions; and if/when they are ruined, we feel what is supposed to be a time of happiness ends up producing more excuses as to why life is not worth enjoying. The level of importance of certain ruined special occasions lead us to why we either like or dislike certain moments in life. So what do you do when certain events of happiness are ruined? I will try to offer my thoughts in this post here on "John's Life Space."

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Special Occasions Ruined

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Certain enjoyable occasions are meant to be just that- enjoyable. However, various influences cause days of happiness to be ruined for whatever reason. Certain moments are meant to be treasured for a long time to come- and hopefully for all the RIGHT reasons. What happens when such projected times of happiness get ruined?

The Psychology of Special Occasions.

From parties to celebrations to ceremonies, we all have times we want to remember and celebrate. When such moments are ruined, we feel there will never be a second chance to enjoy certain times. Think about maybe an Elementary School student performing and wants to see his/her mother and/or father in attendance enjoying the performance. Imagine someone wanting a certain gift for Christmas but unable to get it. Think of someone's birthday party being ruined because of some kind of violence or an overall horrible experience. If someone is graduating, someone wishes a family member or his/her family will be there to see him/her gain recognition and respect for graduating. When not everything goes well, times feel terrible. If someone is about to get married, a lover hopes that the wedding doesn't get called off, or even if at the wedding party, someone gets dumped or decides not to marry the other person. If a mother is ready to give birth, it would be ruined if the father doesn't show up or if the mother suffers some kind of failed pregnancy. We all wish we can enjoy certain moments without any kind of problems. Moments where we can enjoy ourselves or celebrate something should go without hitches. Life, however, gets in the way.

If certain things are not happening or if certain people don't show their loving support, an occasion feels ruined. We always want everything to go smoothly. An opportunity seems missed when things do not go according to plan, or when the desired outcome is not reached. Everything from times as simple as ruined parties to more extreme cases like acts of terror at functions are subject to times being ruined.

What to Do in Times of Ruined Special Occasions?

You hope times go well so you wouldn't be grieving or feeling depressed. It helps to have a support system to help console you in times of ruined happiness. Unfortunate things happen. You can't expect everything to go well. If it is something outside of your control, you did everything you could to make the occasion a great one. Things just did not go your way or as you hoped. If what occasion you wanted to take part in can be done something again another time, just prepare a future date and hope things go better the next time. Most of all, remain positive. You can certainly try again with certain things. For moments like graduation, giving birth, weddings, or anything like that; you may never get to experience such occasions ever again. Life goes on even if you do not get to experience certain things you were hoping for or wanted to experience. It is just unfortunate that what could have been a happy time for you had to result in something less than what you were hoping for. Just move on with your life and try to remain happy. If you can not get your happiness up, have someone help you be happy again.

If you are the victim of a certain crime that occurred during such special occasions, you must try to get in touch with authorities or law enforcement. Try to tell your story and seek justice for certain crimes committed to you. If a family member, friend, or loved one is the victim of a special occasion ruined by somebody else, contact authorities or law enforcement to act on the behalf of your family, friends, and/or loved one(s).

If a special occasion has been ruined thanks to natural disasters or things outside of your control, just know it wasn't your fault. You or nobody you know influenced a certain event to be a failure to you. Unfortunate things happen. It would be pointless for you to (for example) blame weather conditions for ruining an occasion, as if weather is supposed to cooperate with you. There are even times when special occasions ruined outside of your control Maybe such a special occasion ruined by something out of your control was ruined because of malfunctions. For example, let's say there was a party on some sort of boat or watercraft, and then the boat collapses or capsizes. Maybe a party takes place in a building or structure not sturdy. There was one moment at a condo near a certain university when a party happened to where the floor of a condo near a university collapsed, leaving people fall from that floor to the ground level. Maybe you are enjoying a certain special occasion in a carnival-like setting until a ride malfunctions. Maybe some kids are enjoying being in a bouncy house until the bouncy house deflates or some kind of injury happens. Certain things happen at certain times, and it is to no fault of your own. In another sense, you can't blame promoters of a party or a certain individual(s) for ruining your experience because of an event being canceled at the last moment or certain individuals being sick, injured, or even dead.

Final Thoughts.

A lot of different special occasions can be ruined by any number of means or reasons. If it is something caused by others, it can be entirely damaging if someone else ruined what should be a time to enjoy and be free. If the special occasion is ruined because of factors outside of your control, it is surely unfortunate something didn't go your way because of something you can't control. You just have to know that you may or may not get a chance to celebrate a certain occasion or a certain moment again. Do not entirely feel are unable to be happy or enjoy life because of such ruined events.


If a special occasion has been ruined thanks to natural disasters or things outside of your control, just know it wasn't your fault. You or nobody you know influenced a certain event to be a failure to you. Unfortunate things happen. It would be pointless for you to (for example) blame weather conditions for ruining an occasion, as if weather is supposed to cooperate with you. Certain things happen at certain times, and it is to no fault of your own. In another sense, you can't blame promoters of a party or a certain individual(s) for ruining your experience because of an event being canceled at the last moment or certain individuals being sick, injured, or even dead.

Most important thing to do in all of these times is to remain hopeful and happy. You were looking forward to some sort of happy time, but that happy time was denied for whatever reason(s). Not everything goes according to plan. Not every moment goes in a favorable outcome. It is life. Do not stress too much over certain moments or lament missed opportunities. These are all moments that help shape our lives for better or worse.





The most important thing to remember with blog posts like this is that I design these posts with the intent of helping someone who may want the help. I love (or at least respect) everyone who comes through seeking some sort of guidance and help through various life issues. Having said this, I hope this blog post struck a chord with you with advice you can use. All of us need help at some point. I hope my own help can be beneficial to you and others. You are NOT alone if you need help, so take advantage of whatever resources you may need. I am done here. I hope you got something useful out of this post. Before I close this post, I want to offer some discussion material in case you want to discuss this topic:

Has there been a special occasion been ruined for you? How did you handle the pain of that event being ruined if you have been involved in such an event? What would you recommend to someone to cope from a ruined special occasion?

Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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Peer Pressure

Peer pressure is about other people trying to push you into doing things you otherwise do not want to do. It involves doing things to try to please others at the expense of embarrassing yourself or putting your health in jeopardy. Is it worth stressing yourself to try to appease to certain individuals? It mostly depends on the issue at hand and the challenge to try to complete. Peer pressure usually involves trying to do things so you can be better judged by people. This post

Sometimes when I think of peer pressure, I think of some Twitch stream chats. A streamer may sometimes ask for advice when playing a game. Someone may end up suggesting something completely weak or try to make a game harder than it actually is (or harder than it should be). Surely people have the obligation to try to appeal to as many people as possible. However, one can never please everyone. In some peoples' minds, not doing something right or not doing something to a level someone wants something to be done makes one person a failure. If you try to please everyone, you have already failed. Not everyone is going to enjoy you and your work. You wish you could have more people love you and your work; but like anything in life, you will have your fair share of people think poorly of you no matter how much you try to please as many people as possible.

Some examples of peer pressure feature dangerous or damaging acts to be committed. You may be pressured by peers to do something like damage property, pull a prank, or do something you don't believe in or want to do. If you do not accomplish these tasks, people will think of you less and regard you less than who you really are. As an example, let's say you were pressured by peers to smoke cigarettes or cigars. Or maybe you are pressured into chugging alcoholic beverages. You feel you have to accomplish these tasks so you would be properly respected by certain individuals. Failing to meet demands makes you feel like you failed certain peers. So the thought of peer pressure means you HAVE to do certain things in order to win the respect of certain people. This is no fact that you do things based on what YOUR interests and thoughts are as opposed to trying to please certain peers. Also, let's pretend you accomplished peer pressure tasks like smoking or drinking too much alcohol. You end up risking your own health trying to make certain people happy. Are you sure you want that kind of peer pressure in your life?

What makes peer pressure so stressing an issue is the feeling you are under constant pressure to perform well among those around you. Others would feel disappointed about you or would think of you in ways opposite of how you really are. You would feel disappointed if you feel you failed to impress certain individuals you want to impress most. This would especially be true if this was someone intimate to you- namely your family members or a loved one. On the other hand, what if those individuals you tried to impress most were students in your class, people you work with, or fans of yours in live streaming? The one thing you would have to concentrate on is who or what exactly are you trying to accomplish in performing any sort of act. Are you trying to appeal to a greater audience, or are you trying to simply do what you can no matter what anyone thinks? Peer pressure says you have an obligation to please everyone because you want people to think positively of you. If you don't have such peer pressure, then you are doing whatever you can with little or no interest in meeting certain peoples' needs or wishes.

Final Thoughts.

Before you try to do anything to anyone or with anyone, consider who all you are trying to impress. You don't have to please everyone, and not everyone will love you or your work. You shouldn't have to do anything opposite of your personality or beliefs just to appease certain individuals. Peers should have to acknowledge and recognize everyone is different. It is not possible to convert everyone to be "like everyone else." Don't mold yourself to meet someone else's standards. You know who you are what you are capable of- why let somebody else define you? You can not please everyone; and even if you tried, you will still have your fair share of critics. So it is best to just be yourself and not let anyone else judge you unfairly. Just remember who is more important in your life and what matters more to you than what society wants you to be.





That's it! You made it through another "John's Life Space" post! Care to discuss this topic?

How do you deal with peer pressure? Have you experienced any moments of peer pressure? If so, what did you have to do and how did you fare with peer pressure?

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Promiscuous Youth

Being young and promiscuous is a nightmare for parents. Promiscuous youth engage in violence, sex, drinking, smoking, and the like before age 18. They may even be rebellious towards their family and school faculty. In fact, some of these youth may have dropped out of school or simply stop going to school. The fear in these promiscuous youth is that they will suffer some kind of potentially permanent setback that ruins their lives for the rest of their lives. That is why certain people are reluctant to try to get such promiscuous youth under control as much as possible to prevent having an unhappy future. This blog post is a discussion about dealing with promiscuous youth.

Promiscuous Youth: a General Digest.

Mostly in the 1990s, daytime talk shows such as "Maury" and "The Jenny Jones Show" have featured out-of-control teens (and even out-of-control children). When such individuals don't get their way from parents or other family members, they resort to violence. Such promiscuous youth even are proud of being the school bully or even proud of abusing peers at school. Some promiscuous youth even think they know everything and need not go to school any longer. Especially promiscuous girls dress up in sexy and revealing clothing just to show they are grown adults. Some promiscuous types even somehow get their hands on tobacco and alcoholic drinks. They even open themselves towards sex and wild parties. Many promiscuous youth swear they love their parents. However, they (for lack of a better term) show their "love" by abusing their parents and family members physically, mentally, and verbally.

As you can imagine, parents of such promiscuous children and teens are usually worried sick. Some need help to try to tame such wild children. A fear of such parents is that a promiscuous youth will either catch some life-altering disease or end up being killed. In the case of a promiscuous girl, things like pregnancy scares and such will worry most parents.

Because adolescents and children can be abusive, that's why I labeled this blog post about promiscuous youth and not necessarily promiscuous teenagers. Now that you know a little about what I am trying to make mention to, it is my objective to try to help people with their situation(s) regarding this topic. So let's talk about trying to turn around troubled youth, both as parents and for the promiscuous youth themselves.

Video Insight.

To demonstrate the idea of out-of-control youth, I featured this video below. This gives you an idea of what some promiscuous youth can be like. WARNING: This material may not be suitable for all audiences:


^ I get straight A's...So I can do whatever I want! | The Maury Show

So this video gives you an idea of promiscuous youth.

How Do You Turn Around Promiscuous Youth?

On daytime talk shows, there were people who would take away their out-of-control children to scare them straight by taking them to jail. These would be moments in which the promiscuous children get a glimpse of where they are heading towards if they don't turn their lives around. Some parents may even try taking away certain liberties or habits from such out-of-control children. Or, and if you're old-fashioned like myself, there is one other true option- spanking. The only problem is that today's culture thinks spanking your children is child abuse. However, for old-fashioned types, it is sometimes the most effective method to turn around people despite it being such a questionable act.

Here is a resource for you parents dealing with this situation: Out of Control Teenager Tips and Advice

How to Turn Around Yourself, If You Are a Promiscuous Youth?

So what if you are reading this and you admit to being grown as a promiscuous child or teen? You basically don't care what your parents or any other authority figures think about you. The fact is that you will one day get hit with reality and realize you still have a lot of your life ahead of you. You live only once, and almost every decision you make will impact your life forever. You can tell me "YOLO" (you only live once) all you want and think you are invincible and impervious to almost anything; however, what happens when (not if) you get into a situation you can't squirm your way out of?

You are basically putting extra pressure on yourself by engaging in these questionable acts. Most promiscuous types later in their lives would probably enroll in some Adult High School program to get their GED. What some may have already accomplished much earlier in life is what certain former promiscuous youth may soon accomplish. Promiscuous teens need not worry early on in life about wanting to be a mother. Parenthood is a lifelong responsibility, so do not get involved in this if you are not reluctant to devote your life towards raising a child.

Final Thoughts.

It can be tough to try to turn around troubled youth. It becomes mind-boggling how one's own children can overpower his/her/their parents with violence. Do not give up in trying to teach youth right from wrong. I don't advocate or encourage this, but if you have to in trying to turn around troubled youth and want to take an extreme measure (and this is going to a VERY unpopular opinion of mine)- don't be afraid to spank your children. Just don't take the spanking punishment to child abuse levels.

As for the promiscuous youth themselves, the one thing you must realize is that the decisions you make in your young life could impact you for the rest of your life. So if you make a decision that is potentially dangerous, it will impact you for the rest of your life. Certain other decisions may even affect your health or even kill you. Make sure you know full well what you are getting into.


That's all from me. I might add some extra resources to help people who may be in this situation based on this blog post and its subject matter.





This was a tough topic, but I did what I could to bring light to promiscuous youth. How about a little discussion?

How do you (as a parent or family member) help a promiscuous youth? How do you (as a promiscuous youth) turn around your violent and suggestive ways?

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Autism

(UPDATED: April 8, 2019)

Autism is a medical condition that can adversely impact one's mental and social skills. Various influences in conjunction with autism can affect learning and actions. I will try to bring autism to light with this blog post. PLEASE do not take this post as a definitive resource on autism, because I do not know enough about autism to professionally discuss it. So this is more instead a digest on autism.

LATEST UPDATE(S)/REVISION(S):

APR 9 2019 - added an extra resource

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Austism

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I don't know everything about autism. Do not look at this post as a definitive look at autism. Let's still talk about autism here on "John's Life Space."


^ from: physioguru.com - "Always Unique Totally Intelligent Sometimes Mysterious."

Autism, also known as Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) involves a number of personal traits that result in problems communicating with others, repetitive behaviors, and more. It involves things such as elaborately explaining things in fancy ways while also having photographic memory of things. Pictures I've seen shown autism meaning "Always Unique Totally Intelligent Sometimes Mysterious." Males are more likely to have autism than females. According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), 1 in every 59 children are diagnosed with autism. Much like most cancers or certain diseases, if autism detected early in children, then things can properly be arranged to help treat autism or autistic symptoms. There is no cure for autism at present.

To my knowledge, I have no memory of being formally diagnosed with autism. I do admit there have been times where I have elaborately described things to others. I sometimes explain things in elaborate and creative ways. I sometimes showcase things in elaborate and creative ways. But again, to my knowledge, I have never formally been diagnosed with autism.

Autism is usually detected and acknowledged among children more than adults.

For More Information...

I am not adept in autism. When it comes to resources to help you understand autism better, I have provided the following links to this blog post. Take a look at these resources to learn more about autism:

• Autism Speaks
• Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)
• Understanding Autism - The Basics
• Autism Spectrum Disorder (Mayo Clinic)
• Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) (CDC)
• Autism Awareness - The Importance of Knowledge

(ADDED: April 8, 2019)
To help support autism research and such, try this link:

• The Autism Site

I may provide more resources of interest if I can find some more helpful resources on autism.





I hope you liked this post. Maybe I did enough to convince you in regards to making awareness to autism. Thank you for reading! Take care and be well.

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