Here is a quote I found that will set the mood of this blog post:
"Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away."
-Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
When to Subtract People or Things From Your Life.
What constitutes the desire to subtract from you and your life? Usually, you can be generally unhappy with something or reach a point to where you feel you don't matter to other people, or maybe something within you is slowly defeating you. In those moments, you need to subtract something from your life before things get worse. You might feel you are among great people, only to evenutally be in a situation that leads to you feeling unimportant or unwelcome no matter how sincere you try to be. This is a time for you to subtract yourself from a certain community. Even someone like myself tries to find the good in people. Unfortunately, I know I can only look to others only so much to where I ultimately feel I am not good enough or fit enough to be among certain communities. Even rough-around-the-edges people can be even remotely trusted and liked. Sometimes, though, it is never enough. You may even have certain habits that are really taking you down instead of building you up. Regardless, you have to learn when to let things go or move on from what you once loved.The Tough (or Not?) Decision to Subtract from Your Life.
Giving things up is never easy. However, if you think it will help you in the long run with certain situations you face, it is for the better. Many of us have had friends who feel we have never done anything to harm them. Maybe you act in ways most people pertain as being damaging. Perhaps you have a lover (fiancé/fianceé/spouse) who you just can't love and care for. Whatever the case, if you feel the need to move on because things aren't going right for you, you will need to subtract such things and people from your life to add to your own happiness and well-being. Nothing is more hurtful than feeling like you lost the trust of people whom you loved. A lack of trust can bring anyone down. Getting rid of things you find joy in can hurt you if you feel you need to subtract that from your life. No matter what decisions you make, wanting to remove something from your life to make it better can involve making some sacrifices.These are things that make us question what all we have and what we can give up. In the case of subtracting people and communities from your life, remember that you did not feel like you NEED certain people in your life or NEED to be in certain communities. Removing yourself from other people can go quite a way to you feeling more at peace and happier.
Are You Ready to Add to Your Life by Subtracting?
So if you feel the need to remove things from your life to improve it, think long and hard about what you need to get rid of to help make life better. It is proof that you can not always have everything. Some things you have to let go. Or if in the case of someone wanting to do away with you, addition by subtraction is done for you. It is probably better if some people stay to their own world rather than you try to fit into theirs. Addition by subtraction means many things to many people. How you handle these matters can go a long way towards preserving your own personal happiness.Aftermath of Subtracting People and/or Things in Your Life.
If you do decide to subtract people and things in your life, you made the choice to be done with things. Whether you initiate the subtraction or if someone subtracts you from his/her life, you're done with them. You have a chance to move on and find new things to enjoy. You still may be reminiscent of happier times. That won't go away. However, feeling like you are not good enough to meet certain demands just means you have to move on. Why try to stay in a community where you feel toxic and unproductive?For example, I try to be involved in certain communities, but I ultimately do not feel like I am any decent (let alone perfect) fit. So I feel I have to move on by getting rid of my involvement. It is a decision I hate to make, but if it makes me better and that I won't entirely regret, then subtractions of mine are justified. I am always someone who tries to see the good in people. I still find genuine respect in others even if I don't feel totally loved or belong. People have surely moved on from me. And a lot of times, I feel I have to move on when I feel Like I have done all I can to offer my love and respect. It is either never enough, or I am seen in a light opposite of how I see myself. Regardless, it is probably best just to move on. What is the point of trying to fix what is almost impossible to repair? You have to move on sometimes and subtract people and things from your life to add to it.
Addition by subtraction- just another of many different life issues I bring into the fold here on "John's Life Space." I don't make the best choices or do the right things all the time, but I do try to bring real issues to the forefront and offer my own advice. I hope you can appreciate my work.
How have you dealt with adding by subtracting in life?
I always try to bring up some depressing situations to try to offer some peace and some hope. It is the least I can do for this blog. All I want to do with "John's Life Space" is provide some guidance for those who may need it or wouldn't mind it. You do not have to like me. However, I hope you can at least respect me trying to provide material people can relate to. All I am trying to do is make sense of a senseless world, because life happens. So with all of this said, thank you for reading! Take care and be well.
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