Love between two strangers is a beautiful thing that can lead to marriage. Married types will enjoy the best and worst of times together. When marriage reaches times of crisis, marriage counseling may help the longevity of a marriage. So marriage counseling can help make sure marriages last for as long as they can. In any attempt to help keep marriages going strong and staying strong, marriage counseling can go a long way to helping make sure married couples stay together long enough. When should you consider marriage counseling? What are the benefits of seeking marriage counseling? Is there anything wrong seeking outside assistance for helping save or salvage a marriage? I will attempt to answer these questions and more in this blog post.
NOTE 1: This post was made in a partnership with BetterHelp, a service allowing people in crisis to connect with therapists and other qualified healthcare professionals for an affordable price.
NOTE 2: I am NOT married, nor have I ever been in any true relationship. So what I will be discussing is all opinion-based.
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JUN 10 2020 - removed some linksMarriage Counseling in General
Marriage counseling entails trying to keep together a married couple whose may be in crisis. Or a couple not yet married may seek pre-marital counseling to resolve any matters before marriage. No matter what the case, married couples can use some counseling to be together and stay together "'till death do us part."
Here are individual talking points on marriage counseling...
Why Seek Marriage Counseling?
Like any investment, maintenance may be needed to extend the life of investments. Love (let alone marriage) is an investment in its own right. A couple purely in love with each other want to grow old together and enjoy every exciting moment life has to offer. If a couple can not seem to get along and do not make an effort to diagnose and treat any relationship issues, the only possible saving grace could be to meet with a marriage counselor. What a marriage counselor can do is offer some sort of therapy to help lessen the damage of a damaged marriage. A marriage counselor can help provide some sort of direction to help a couple in crisis move closer towards restoring love among the two.While it may seem shaky to discuss your personal matters with a totally different person, it is at least an opportunity to let go of something holding you back. A marriage counselor has probably dealt with people who have had similar or worse marital issues than what you are facing. So fear not once you step into the office of a marriage counselor. His/Her job is to try to work with you and your spouse to help save a troubled marriage. If you still want to be with your spouse and do not want to consider divorce, you should really try to get marriage counseling to help give yourself a chance. A couple can only benefit from meeting with a marriage counselor to save a marriage rather than keep transgressions bottled up.
When to Seek Marriage Counseling.
Any number of issues can lead towards wanting marriage counseling. A couple in crisis after a number of months or years may seek marriage counseling. A couple who may not be officially married may have some issues trying to stay together or with other matters. There are times when we need to have someone professional to help save marriage, especially those who want to stay together and not seek divorce. No matter what situation(s) arise, wanting marriage counseling can go a long way to save a marriage. A couple is best to try to seek marriage counseling immediately before it is too late or before a troubled marriage reaches a point of being beyond repair.Even if you are not married (but about to be married), you may want to seek marriage counseling should you be facing issues prior to being officially married. This is known as premarital counseling. Premarital counseling may be needed if your relationship is facing issues before becoming legally married. The help provided by a marriage counselor can help a soon-to-be married couple keep that loving relationship without the couple have to call off the wedding.
Something to Remember...
You are not a failure, and your relationship is not a failure just because you have to seek help from professionals to try to save or maintain your marriage. It may cost money and time to invest in talking with a marriage counselor, but at least it is better than any kind of do-it-yourself efforts to salvage a marriage. At least you are better served getting professional help than dealing with possible enablers or (at worst) having things resort to foul matters such as domestic violence or marital rape. So try to connect with a marriage counselor if your marriage is on the rocks (and I am not talking about margaritas!).Up next is a look at certain situations as part of the marriage counseling process.
Marriage Counseling: Special Situations
Marriage counseling may be beneficial, but there are certain considerations and situations which marriage counseling can vastly impact. This section will discuss some of these certain circumstances in getting the help you need so your married relationship can last for as long as it can.
Marriage Counseling... When Children are Involved.
If a married couple has children or may expect children, this is a most crucial situation in regards to marriage counseling, because this aspect can impact both the parents and the children for life. If divorce happens, it can greatly impact the bond between parents and their children. This may lead to possible battles for custody. In the case of a couple expecting children, marital matters discussed with a marriage counselor can be just as damaging and detrimental towards making sure the children are taken care of in addition to the parents.Marriage counseling can be especially critical when children are involved. So just like a couple that may not have children, marriage counseling is double important in this situation.
Marriage Counseling: Time to Divorce.
So what happens when a marriage has reached a level to where it is beyond repair? It may be time to divorce. A couple may want to be together for as long as their lives will allow. Sometimes, however, the best move may be to just move on. A marriage counselor can only do so much to try to fix what can be fixed. If there is no hope for a positive solution for a married couple, the best thing may be to divorce.Now for some final thoughts on marriage counseling.
Marriage Counseling: Final Thoughts
As worthwhile an investment love is (let alone marriage), you deserve to be able to get help for when married life is not going too well. Part of that investment in marriage is in finding help for when you and your significant other can not seem to get along happily. You can do no wrong to have help from a marriage counselor. You invested the time and energy to fall in love with the one you eventually married; why not look after your investment in love like you do your house, your car, or almost any precious possession of yours? So make sure to connect with a marriage counselor to help keep this love investment going long and strong. You could try to save a marriage DIY (do it yourself) style, but not everyone can succeed trying to save their own marriage without the help of a marriage counselor. Do not take chances- connect with a marriage counselor for the best chance of saving a troubled marriage.
As I mentioned, I have never been in any proper relationship and am not married. Everything you have read was all based on personal opinions and thoughts.
If you wish to start a discussion on this topic, here is a discussion question for you:
Would you seek marriage counseling to save your marriage? Would you rather seek marriage counseling or try to fix a troubled marriage yourself (and why)?
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